“You need to talk more and make new friends in kindergarten.”
I was driving home recently with my girls, I heard the above heartfelt and declarative statement from my older daughter, who is now in first grade giving to her younger sister now in kindergarten this current school year.
The significance of this bold and monumental, sibling advice didn’t elude me. I admit, I may have been pretending I wasn’t listening while keeping my eyes on the road for my girls sake, but secretly I confess that I tuned my ears in more than these two ever could have imagined to have a literal front and up close seat to the sisterly exchange.
To give a quick background to the reader, my now 1st grade daughter was only a shy and introverted kindergartner a year ago, but a lot has changed in only a year’s time.
If anyone was qualified to shed some light on what my youngest would and should do during her first year in elementary school, it would indeed be the now first grader, who literally just completed this very same stage of her own young life only one year previous.
As much as I have been trying to advise my baby on what to expect in kindergarten in recent times, I am probably not as qualified on this even after parenting her sister through the last year.
For starters, kindergarten is nothing like it was when I attended almost 30 years ago as she will now learn how to read, write and perform simple addition and subtraction for 6 plus hours day.
It is also the first time that she has been away from me for an extended period of time for days on an end. Still yet, this is a time where she will have to give more trust and herself to another adult figure other then me — her teacher.
Yet, all these uncharted challenges, set aside, our most recent once kindergarten student had noticed that her baby sister was uncharacteristically quiet when meeting up with some of her classmates.
So, she took this opportunity to dispense from her own recent experiences from only the year before not only that her sister should be more willing to make new friends, but why she should as I continued to listen to the sisterly conversation play out.
According to big sister, above all the lessons that could indeed be learned from her first full-time school experience, being open to new friendships was on the top of the list, because in her exact words she added, “School can be a lonely place without your friends” to say the least.
Maybe I am a bit biased.
After all, I am the mom to both of these amazing young girls, who are only separated by 16 months, but still I can’t help but see all the beauty and love in the above words of wisdom from my former kindergartener to her younger, now kindergarten sister that was given straight from her heart and with so much love, too.
See as much as these two sisters love one another and are mostly the best of friends after school hours, weekends and holidays, still truth be told I do agree with my older daughter’s observations that they do need their own friends in their own respective grades.
So, for the 6 year old to verbalize to this her kid sister was truly amazing and heartwarming to me. The almost 5 year old, nodded and listened and I am hopeful now that she will remember her sister’s words for the year ahead.
If all else fails though, there was nothing more beautiful in my eyes and ears than the affection and tenderness that these two sisters shared during this chat. Hopeful that they will always be this close for years to come.
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