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5 Firsts Moms Would Love To Forget

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Firsts and milestones with kids go hand-in-hand.

I remember when my kids were just small babies and chronicling every milestone in their baby books.

My girls are no longer babies though and full fledged kids.

But still with kids, there is a first time for everything—

Even after all these years being a mom and having kids, there is always room for more firsts.

I just never know daily what I will get.

See as much as I can plan for what will be on tap, my kids still surprise me yet.

Some firsts surprises are good.

And still some not so good yet.

Life is anything, but a day at the beach with kids, unless of course you are at the beach with kids.

But still I guarantee, even those beach days aren’t truly filled with fun, time firsts by any means.

5 Firsts Moms Would Love to Forget

Here is a list of the 5 firsts that this mom wouldn’t consider fun. Nor would she love to remember. Plus, most definitely would not write down in any baby book…

1.  The first time your kid has had a public meltdown.

Whether it be over Rudolf Stamps or something else, such as getting a new toy, trust me you will never quite forget the first time your wee, little one throws themselves on the floor and throws a knock down, drag out fit for all to hear and see.

See, I can recall being at my older daughter’s pre-school, when my younger daughter decided that she would throw herself full force on the ground, kicking and screaming, because she was having no part of going home with me, as she wanted to be a pre-school student, as well.  Nor will ever I quite forget, her limp body, as I had to physically drag her out of the school that day.

That was over 3 years ago and she will be starting kindergarten in a few short weeks, but still I can clearly see this episode if I try, because it will be forever etched in my mind.

2. The first time swear word your child uttered.

Whether you are the culprit behind this first bad word ever spoken out of your little one’s mouth or not, I can share that your ears and heart will be shocked, but will slowly rebound.

Same child, as above also in the past as clear as day, let us know she was apparently listening when she made sure not only speak her first ever curse word, but use it it’s proper context, too.

I, indeed, went into further detail here, but nevertheless still haven’t forgotten this one and probably never will!

3.  The first time your kid told you they didn’t love you.

I waited a long time to hear the words, “Mommy, I love you!”  But just as quickly as I got to hear this phrase, I also equally got to be told one fateful day that not only was I not so loved, but even also The Mean Mommy, as well, because well sometimes mommy has to put her foot down and be the disciplinarian.

Let’s face it, there are times when kids will be kids and do something they shouldn’t do and this is when you will upset the so-called apple cart, but for good reason.

Just remember this too shall pass, as in I have heard the phrase enough now, when the kids are misbehaving, but once it is over, they most definitely still do love me. But still yet that first time, will stop you in your tracks and might even tear or tug at your heart strings, even though realistically we are only doing our job as a mom should most indeed.

4.  The first time your kid got hurt physically.

We do so much from the early days of pregnancy, through childbirth, the first year and more to keep our kids safe, but sadly we just can’t keep our kids in a bubble free of injury forever.

Don’t mistake me, no parent wants to ever see their child get hurt, but sometimes it is just unavoidable.  However that first time usually is a huge shock to a parent’s system, as well as subsequent times, but still that inaugural trauma will always stay with us – no matter what.

Is just what it is!

5.  The first time your kid did or said something to embarrass you.

Even though both my girls have had their fair share of embarrassing moments outside of the home now, how can I ever forget their firsts on this?!

Trust me, when I say that I have most certainly not had any memory lapses.

My older daughter still is the more serious of the two and first moment of mortification was actually quite innocent, but still nonetheless found us stumped after her first meeting with her then pre-school teacher, which you can read all about here.

My younger daughter, needless to say, is for all those who follow along here, the wild card and although I actually never wrote about about this, because this actually occurred before I began this blog over 4 years ago, when she wasn’t even quite a year old!  It all began with an innocent shopping trip to Target, but ended with her half undressed in the shopping cart and an older customer feeling the need to share with me that my daughter was indeed half way to naked town in said cart.

Seriously, I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried!

Let's Forget This First Ever Happened

Yet on second thought, if you are a writer or have a blog, chances are you have already documented it for all to read and re-read for years to come, as you can clearly see from all the evidence I can link back to here from past experiences.  

So definitely no baby book needed or required here!

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This post was originally written for the One Word Blog Linkup that was hosted by Lisa of The Golden Spoons and yours truly, too.

The words for that week were : Thunder or First.

 

 

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About Janine

Janine is a published author of the books, The Mother of All Meltdowns and Only Trollops Shave Above the Knee. She has been featured on The Huffington Post, Mamapedia, Today Parenting Team and SheKnows. She also runs her own graphic design company at J9 Designs.

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    • Janine says

      Oh man, you just made me thank god I never did take my girls on a plane as babies. But still, we are going to Disney by plane this weekend and keep your fingers crossed no one gets air sick on us now!

  3. Allie says

    Oh those first aren’t fun. How about the first time you child won’t hold your hand in public? Or the first time they tell you they don’t want you to walk into school with them? Yeah, fun times. And the first time your child goes to high school:( – like tomorrow!

    • Janine says

      Those are all firsts I have yet to experience, but still won’t be a fan of either, Allie. I just actually experienced another first after writing this last night with my oldest answering me back snotty for the first time. So now, I can add that to my list, as well!

  4. Lisa @ The Golden Spoons says

    I love what you did with this! I remember many of the same firsts! My oldest was a queen tantrum thrower, my middle one broke her leg at 20 months old, my middle also used a shocking swear word correctly that almost sent me over the edge! 🙂 Got to love motherhood!

  5. Carrie Groneman says

    GREAT post Janine and those are fantastic ‘first’s. I think I’m so far down the line, I’ve forgotten many of them and they blend in with all the kids and all their ‘first’s, lol. I always enjoy your fresh take on life and humorous spin. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Carrie, A Mother’s Shadow

  8. Angie says

    Great idea! I would add the first diaper blowout – which always happens somewhere inconvenient like Walmart while in a snuggly carrier (I think I had to throw away my shoes…) or in the car seat between errands when you are 30 minutes from home (not enough wipes in the universe…)

  10. Leanne@crestingthehill says

    My “kids” are in their 20’s and I can still remember those moments it would be nice to forget – I figure it build empathy for other mothers and reminds me not to frown when someone’s child is being less than perfect. Enjoy Disney World – it will make some very happy memories for you! ~ Leanne

  14. Jen says

    One or two of my kids do at least one of these daily. It’s really nice when they are doing it at the same time as one of their siblings. I have given up, but it funny to see the Junior High schooler’s reactions to these types of embarrassing situations that I have just given up on caring about. Well, except for the getting hurt one. If there is blood I respond a lot faster 🙂

  15. Diane Roark says

    Janine,

    I can definitely relate to this post times 5. I am finding both teenagers and young adults still have first with their parents. This Sunday we are dropping one of my sons off at college which is 2 hours away. This will be the first big step for the both of us. Each time one of them leaves, I have such a hard time. I know they will never be back in my home full time. As I write this, tears are flowing. It is definitely not a first for him I am ready to experience yet.
    Thanks for sharing,
    Diane

    • Janine says

      Aw, Diane I am crying as I type this back for you and seriously sending you so much love and hugs your way right now. I know this will happen here with my girls one day and will also be a teary eyed mess when it does. Love you and if you need anything or just a friend to talk to, you know I am here. <3

  16. Dana says

    Ah…I remember the first time I got “You are the meanest mommy in the whole world!” It hurt but I didn’t let her see it. I guess that means I’m doing my job well!

  19. Jill Herzberg Morgenstern says

    The first time my 3 year old told me she was pretending I was dead…oh wait! It’s happened so many times that I forget which was first! 🙂 🙂 🙂

  22. Heather@hungryforbalance says

    Oh my gosh, I love this so much! My daughter is only 20 months old (at what age do you get to stop using the “months” part? 2?) and she has just recently started repeating everything. Especially things I say. Like when we are in the car and I am irritated with other drivers…you see where I am going with this.
    Maybe we can think of these things as a weird mom right-of-passage or something? No? Okay. Better to just forget.

  23. another jennifer says

    So many firsts, both good and bad! I remember the first time my kindergartner wouldn’t let me walk him to the door of the school. I had to stop at the bike rack. I was bummed, but it was neat to see him express his independence.

  24. Tamara says

    Oh yes. I remember them all well. Scarlet really embarrassed me in such a way I can’t even write it on your blog. I wrote it on my own once and it’s JUICY.
    I think another wonderful first is the first time one of your kids gets a stomach virus. Joy!

    • Janine says

      I think I know what you are talking about and recall it on your blog. And also think you know just how I feel about the stomach virus and it is just as ugly in thoughts as reality for me!

  26. Courtney says

    Oh, #1…I was getting my car registration transferred when we moved state to state. My 18m son was a perfect angel through all of the waiting and the paperwork and more waiting and approvals. Then it was time to put his coat on, and he wasn’t having it. Long story short, I end up having to wrestle it on him. These DMV ladies were looking at me like I was so horrible. It was -10 outside and we had parked a few blocks away! That’s one I’d like to forget, but I won’t.

  27. Stacey Gannett says

    I am so beyond surprised that not a one of my three have ever had a full out meltdown. But I have dealt with the “mean mommy” thing! LOL! Two of mine have said they didn’t love me, once, but they never tried it a second time. 🙂 Have a great vacation and a great week!

  28. Bev says

    Those are definitely firsts I’m not looking forward to! Eve has yet to have a full on meltdown in public soon, but I know it’s going to happen. Today we did have to leave a cafe because she was getting quite loud and antsy, but I’m nervous about a real public meltdown. Hopefully I’ll be met with sympathy and not judgement!

    • Janine says

      Aw, I know how it feels to have others looking on and can say thankfully for the most part I have been met with sympathy in these rare moments from other parents who can relate and truly hope you will be treated similarly when it does happen with Eve, Bev.

  29. Kenya G. Johnson says

    LOL @#1 just because we were just discussing that. We were sort of on the same page with that huh? ? Aww to #3. That one hasn’t happened. But when he was potty training I think he would have said it he knew how to articulate. He was SO mad at me about that I finally had to take a break with it, I can rememeber the “last” fall out that my son had. He was too big to be falling on the floor in a tantrum. He went down carefully and it was just too funny, Natutally he screamed at me for laughing. Wooo I am glad those days are behind us. He was for the most part a good boy but we had our moments, always when daddy wasn’t home. Have a wonderful vacation!!!

    • Janine says

      I love that we were on a similar page with #1, Kenya and was truly smiling when I did read your article today even more so because of this. And it is always when Daddy is out that these moments seem to happen even more so. Wonder why?!!

  30. April G says

    So very true. I hate those firsts. I know the first time my son told me that he didn’t love me, I said that he needed to get out because I don’t take care of those I don’t love me. I think we both stung after that argument and I’ve never heard it before.

  33. Lisa @ The Meaning of Me says

    I’m sure so many of us can relate to at least one or two of these moments. Public meltdown? Check. Naked in public? Check (I think I did a blog post about that one – too funny.) Swear words? Check. Ah, the joys, right? This post reminded me of a few fond and funny memories of Kidzilla’s firsts – thanks!

  35. Chris Carter says

    Ah… YES!!! All of THOSE!! You brought back some pretty tough memories for me, over here Janine!!

    Next, write a list of all the ‘firsts’ moms did that we would like to forget!! Here, I’ll start with the first one…

    1. First meltdown.
    LOL

  36. Rosey says

    My son is 7 and he recently embarrassed me, and his aunt, in a restaurant. I thought it was funny, not sure his aunt did who gently tried to re-direct the line of conversation. And you’re right about the first boo boo. That one’s no good!

    • Janine says

      I know the redirect well and sometimes though you just still can’t help but laugh at some of their. I mean not the boo-boos of course, but still some of the things they’ll say or do is a riot! 😉

  38. Rea says

    Aw hahaha! I’ve got so many of these instances and I totally just laugh about them now when I recall them. You see Reiko used to have a habit of laying on the ground too when he didn’t get what he wanted so there were so many times when I had to drag him physically most especially out of the arcade! Once I tried to drag him out of the arcade but he crawled his way back!

  40. Leslie says

    OMG, the half-dressed story in Target definitely takes the cake! The three year old is just starting to get into the ‘you don’t love me’ talk. Just this morning she told the Husband that he’s mean to her. Can’t you just see the teenage drama coming?

  41. Jhanis says

    My 4yo is the queen of meltdowns. Ugh! And she said a “bad” word for the first time last week. I am embarrassed to say that I laughed. But only because we were alone when she said it! LOL

  42. Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom says

    Oh my goodness, yes to most of these! The “I don’t love” you one hurts the most. Ouch. I know we shouldn’t take it personally, but it still stings.

    I’m sure there will be more “firsts” to add to this list over the years.

    Can you imagine our girls together?! What a riot!

    Wishing you a lovely week.
    xoxo

  43. The Pinterested Parent says

    Yup! I could tell you the story for each & everyone. Lol! Mai’s first major public meltdown ended with me pulling her out of story time at a local museum while she screamed at the top of her lungs “Don’t take me!!” As my daughter is blond haired & blued eyed and has none of my Asian features, I was quite certain that the cops were being called on me while I tried to get her into the car.

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