Firsts and milestones with kids go hand-in-hand.
I remember when my kids were just small babies and chronicling every milestone in their baby books.
My girls are no longer babies though and full fledged kids.
But still with kids, there is a first time for everything—
Even after all these years being a mom and having kids, there is always room for more firsts.
I just never know daily what I will get.
See as much as I can plan for what will be on tap, my kids still surprise me yet.
Some firsts surprises are good.
And still some not so good yet.
Life is anything, but a day at the beach with kids, unless of course you are at the beach with kids.
But still I guarantee, even those beach days aren’t truly filled with fun, time firsts by any means.
Here is a list of the 5 firsts that this mom wouldn’t consider fun. Nor would she love to remember. Plus, most definitely would not write down in any baby book…
1. The first time your kid has had a public meltdown.
Whether it be over Rudolf Stamps or something else, such as getting a new toy, trust me you will never quite forget the first time your wee, little one throws themselves on the floor and throws a knock down, drag out fit for all to hear and see.
See, I can recall being at my older daughter’s pre-school, when my younger daughter decided that she would throw herself full force on the ground, kicking and screaming, because she was having no part of going home with me, as she wanted to be a pre-school student, as well. Nor will ever I quite forget, her limp body, as I had to physically drag her out of the school that day.
That was over 3 years ago and she will be starting kindergarten in a few short weeks, but still I can clearly see this episode if I try, because it will be forever etched in my mind.
2. The first time swear word your child uttered.
Whether you are the culprit behind this first bad word ever spoken out of your little one’s mouth or not, I can share that your ears and heart will be shocked, but will slowly rebound.
Same child, as above also in the past as clear as day, let us know she was apparently listening when she made sure not only speak her first ever curse word, but use it it’s proper context, too.
I, indeed, went into further detail here, but nevertheless still haven’t forgotten this one and probably never will!
3. The first time your kid told you they didn’t love you.
I waited a long time to hear the words, “Mommy, I love you!” But just as quickly as I got to hear this phrase, I also equally got to be told one fateful day that not only was I not so loved, but even also The Mean Mommy, as well, because well sometimes mommy has to put her foot down and be the disciplinarian.
Let’s face it, there are times when kids will be kids and do something they shouldn’t do and this is when you will upset the so-called apple cart, but for good reason.
Just remember this too shall pass, as in I have heard the phrase enough now, when the kids are misbehaving, but once it is over, they most definitely still do love me. But still yet that first time, will stop you in your tracks and might even tear or tug at your heart strings, even though realistically we are only doing our job as a mom should most indeed.
4. The first time your kid got hurt physically.
We do so much from the early days of pregnancy, through childbirth, the first year and more to keep our kids safe, but sadly we just can’t keep our kids in a bubble free of injury forever.
Don’t mistake me, no parent wants to ever see their child get hurt, but sometimes it is just unavoidable. However that first time usually is a huge shock to a parent’s system, as well as subsequent times, but still that inaugural trauma will always stay with us – no matter what.
Is just what it is!
5. The first time your kid did or said something to embarrass you.
Even though both my girls have had their fair share of embarrassing moments outside of the home now, how can I ever forget their firsts on this?!
Trust me, when I say that I have most certainly not had any memory lapses.
My older daughter still is the more serious of the two and first moment of mortification was actually quite innocent, but still nonetheless found us stumped after her first meeting with her then pre-school teacher, which you can read all about here.
My younger daughter, needless to say, is for all those who follow along here, the wild card and although I actually never wrote about about this, because this actually occurred before I began this blog over 4 years ago, when she wasn’t even quite a year old! It all began with an innocent shopping trip to Target, but ended with her half undressed in the shopping cart and an older customer feeling the need to share with me that my daughter was indeed half way to naked town in said cart.
Seriously, I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried!
Yet on second thought, if you are a writer or have a blog, chances are you have already documented it for all to read and re-read for years to come, as you can clearly see from all the evidence I can link back to here from past experiences.
So definitely no baby book needed or required here!
This post was originally written for the One Word Blog Linkup that was hosted by Lisa of The Golden Spoons and yours truly, too.
The words for that week were : Thunder or First.