Welcome back to Finish The Sentence Friday Blog Hop (FTSF). We give you a sentence and you finish it (however long or short you’d like). Please feel free to link up and follow any or all of our hostesses, which are below.
And now for this week’s sentence to finish: “When it comes to my past relationships, my partner/spouse thinks….”
Next week’s sentence to finish: “Right now, I am thankful for…”
“When it comes to my past relationships, my partner/spouse thinks….”
Actually he knows so many of the gory details that most would not surprise him.
For instance, the relationship right before Kevin, I was dating a Marine, who was called into action in Iraq with war.
We went back and forth, but ultimately I broke up with him, because I just couldn’t handle the pressure and worries associated with being the significant other of someone in the line of duty.
I totally give all who are in long term relationships like these huge props, but for me I just knew it wasn’t something I could do or deal with.
Kevin, also, knew about the relationship that I had on my early twenties that although meant the world to me was also so very toxic, because this person was alcoholic and truly could not get past his own demons to work in our relationship.
Ultimately, I was honest with Kevin, because from these relationships, I knew what I did and didn’t want.
I truly felt there was no reason to lie or omit the gory details, because I knew if we were meant to be, he needed to know all I had gone through before we got together and how it did indeed shape me.
I am thankful, Kevin truly isn’t the jealous type and has taken it all in to pretty much be secure in knowing that I love him and as much as we have had our ups and downs, that I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else now.
By the way, the honestly goes both ways and he also shared his past romances with me. Which in my eyes goes a long way and just makes me happy to know that we do have that much trust and faith in each other.
Sappy post for sure, but after 10 years together, there isn’t much the boy doesn’t know about me and as he says, “He knew what he was getting into right from the start!”
Now that I have told about what Kevin thinks about my past relationships, please share with me what your better half thinks!!
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Lisa @ Golden Spoons says
Love what you did with this post! I struggled with it because I didn't have many relationships before meeting my hubby. However, I can say that he knows everything there is to know about me and I know the same about him!
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Janine Huldie says
Thank you Lisa and I actually loved what you did with your post. Seriously, I remember being younger and so wishing that my parents knew nothing of my relationships back then, but now having my girls like I said to you, I totally do get it!!
Dana says
My husband knows all there is to know about my past relationships too, which isn't much! I didn't have a long list of past boyfriends when we met at age 19.:)
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Janine Huldie says
Dana, i love that you and your husband have been together since you were 19 and think you too are just perfect for each other. Thanks again for sharing with us tonight!! 🙂
Chance of Wine says
Aw, this is so sweet. Like the 2 of you, my husband and I have always been upfront with each other about our pasts. Some might think that's weird, but I think it's important to know what someone has been through as it kind of defines them, you know?
You guys are SO cute. I love those pics of you together!!!!
xo
Janine Huldie says
Dani, I had a feeling you would totally get this and know we are quite similar in the way we think on so much, that this doesn't surprise me. And totally agree that it is so very important to share the past, because you are so right it does definitely define who we are and who we have become from it all.
stephsprenger says
I think that honest, open policy is the healthiest thing you can do, Janine! Love the photos- so sweet!
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Janine Huldie says
Thanks Stephanie and at this stage in the game, I seriously have nothing to hide. Just so happy that Kevin and I are on the same page!! 🙂
Billybuc says
Jeez, I don't know what Bev thinks of my past relationships. She had problems with them in the past but I am pretty sure she is secure in her thoughts now. If not I have more work to do, don't I? 🙂 Have a great Friday Janine!
Janine Huldie says
I think Bev totally loves you for you my friend and definitely know this from all I have seen and heard from being friends with you! Happy almost Friday now to you, too 🙂
Sarah says
Gorgeous pictures! That's great that you guys can be so honest with each other. And I agree, so much of who we are is based on our past relationships, so we need to honor and appreciate them, even if they weren't 'right' for us.
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Janine Huldie says
Thanks so much Sarah and so true like it or not, we all are a product of our past. It does shape us to some extent, so I couldn't help, but be honest about it with Kevin.
flemily says
We too were honest about our past relationships, although now I can hardly remember the details, because it's been sooo long! My husband and I met in college and it's fun to say I married my college sweetheart!
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Janine Huldie says
Awe, I love that you married your college sweetheart Emily and I know a lot of the past does start to blur a bit as we do get older. So know exactly what you mean.
Kristi Campbell says
Hm. My husband doesn't know **** but we both prefer it that way. Also? I'm old, and it's different. I love the wedding photo!!
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Janine Huldie says
Lol, Kristi. You definitely made me giggle here a bit and you seriously aren't old, but thank you for your kind words about our wedding picture (to look like that again even for one day!).
gigigirl says
How very honest of you, Janine. I don't know I would be so willing to share past relationships, nor would I want to know. Good for you and Kevin. That will keep you strong in the long run. Love you both…….xxoo
Janine Huldie says
Thanks Aunt Gloria and I have always just been too honest for my own good and don't know how to be any other way. Love you , too!! xoxo 🙂
Growing Up Madison says
Hubby knows all there is to know about mine but I would say that he thinks I did so much better with him. 🙂 I think he did so much better with me too. Hope you'll have an awesome weekend. It's Friday!
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Janine Huldie says
I know so psyched it is Friday and thanking god for that one right now. But your hubby sounds a lot like mine and think we also both think we did so much better with each other!! 🙂
tinarobmorley says
Awwww! That is so sweet! I took a different angle, because my hubby is the jealous type. lol
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Janine Huldie says
That makes sense Tina and I had a few jealous guys in the past, so I can understand that!!
dishofdailylife says
There are no secrets here either, but then again we have been together over half of our lives. We met in college.
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Janine Huldie says
Love that you too don't have much in the way of secrets and it has only been 10 years, but I feel like I have known Kevin for so much longer if that makes sense!! 🙂
brittneilynn21 says
This is so beautiful! The same is with hubby and me. I have a huge past. Not just with bad relationships but with my childhood and all of that. Hubby knows it all. Same is with him. I think it's important to really be able to accept your spouse's past as the past in order to be in a content marriage. 🙂
Janine Huldie says
I totally agree with you on this and I do think it is so very important to be able to accept the past in order to be happy here and now!! 🙂
Sara says
I dated on of Tommy's friend before I dated him so I would say he is more than aware of my past relationships lol. I don't think you can be in a serious relationship and not had that talk about what went wrong in the past. Like you mentioned it helps you find out what you want in your relationships going forward.
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Janine Huldie says
I am so with you on this Sara and do think (at least for me) that I too couldn't be in a serious relationship without talking about what I would like and how to achieve it. To me that includes discussing what might have went wrong int he past, as well.
massholemommy says
Chris knows all of my gory details, too. Like you, I didn't see any reason to lie or omit anything, so he knows about it all.
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Janine Huldie says
I am so happy to hear it isn't just us and I really also just couldn't have it any other way, Robin!! 🙂
lizzy allan says
What a gorgeous couple you guys are! This is such a sweet post. It's so lovely that you can be so open and honest with Kevin and that he's not a jealous guy; that's such a wonderful thing for your daughters and for both of you. xx
Janine Huldie says
Thanks so much Lizzy and I truly am happy that we do have this much of an open and honest relationship, because I really wouldn't be able to have it any other way. I am seriously just too honest for my own good!! 🙂
eddy says
As always Janine absolutely beautiful interesting and all else. How fortunate we are that you share your beautiful family with us. Your photos are amazing and are more p[precious than gems as you share them over the years.
A great post and sharing for sure. Enjoy your day.
Eddy.,
Janine Huldie says
Thanks as always again Eddy and hoping you too are enjoying your day now!! 🙂
tamaralikecamera says
My husband said something similar – he knew what he was getting from the start, and that's what he chose. And that was when people mentioned to him that I don't cook or clean very well and he still stands by the fact that he's ok with it!! He's a very good cook and cleaner, anyway. Why should I compete? I don't expect him to take meaningful photos of our children, do I?
Anyway. I had an alcoholic boyfriend in my 20's too. It was very tough and I'm so glad I walked away.
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Janine Huldie says
Tamara, Kevin is also a very good cook and when he gets int he mode cleans up nicely, too. I will say this though he sews and irons (I do neither) and always felt the same way, why should compete to try to do something he does so well at already, too. And thank you for sharing with me about your past and looks like we just have more in comment hen we already knew (and just more reasons yet again for me to love you!).
Kenya G. Johnson says
Love it that you were open with him about your experiences. It takes experiences like yours to know what a good thing is and know what not to stand for. Love the photos!
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Janine Huldie says
Thanks Kenya and I seriously just knew Kevin was the best thing that could ever happen to me and wasn't (and still not) too proud to admit that 🙂
NuggetOnABudget says
I remember us commenting back and forth on how those old "gory" relationships from high school and college helped us know what we wanted in a husband and ultimately led us to the right men for us!! So true for me, too. I was in a long relationship before I met RJ and it was SO not the right one for me lol! Happy Friday now to you Janine and hope you are gearing up for a nice weekend with Kevin and the girls! xoxo:)
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Janine Huldie says
Happy Friday right back at you and wishing you a wonderful weekend, too!! As for the past relationships, I do remember us talking about this and having quite a bit in common. Just so thankful that we both met our matches in RJ (you and Kevin (me)!! 🙂
donofalltrades says
Best to get that stuff out of the way early, I say! Why let it fester and then have somebody find something out later that it looks like you were tying to hide? Suddenly, you have an unnecessary fight on your hands. lol.
Janine Huldie says
So true Don and will say there is always room for fights though, but why make these into that, too! Lol 🙂
day-with-kt.com says
What a fun prompt!!
We are pretty much open books – I'm actually FB friends with several of my exes (I asked Chris if he cared first).
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Janine Huldie says
Love that you both are pretty much open books, too Kim!! 🙂
kellylmckenzie says
I think the fact that he knew what he was getting into right from the start says it all. It's so important to go into marriage without the rose tinted glasses, no? Here's to 110 more years for you both!
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Janine Huldie says
Thank you Kelly and I seriously couldn't agree more on knowing what we are getting into from the get go!! 🙂
Lanaya says
So sappy … LOL. But so true! You and Kevin are adorable and I can't even handle the day when we get to all meet. Brian and Kevin would totally be besties too.
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Janine Huldie says
It must be kismet, because I was just writing up in my Ten Thankful Things about how thankful I am for you, Playdough, Kitty socks and more!! But seriously, we better meet soon and thing the four of us would love each other as much in person!! 🙂 xoxo!
Rosey says
I think it's sweet. 🙂
Hubby and I know all the important stuff too, I do believe. 🙂
Janine Huldie says
Thanks Rosey and so glad you and your husband are that same page, too!! 😉
dianeroark says
Janine,
I have a boring story. I met my husband the day after I turned 16. We were married young at 19 and 20. Neither one of us dated anyone else before or after meeting each other. We have been married now for 29 years. We have had some EXTREMELY difficult, difficult times but we have always put God first in our marriage. I am hoping it will last another 29 years.
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Janine Huldie says
Doesn't sound boring to me Diane, b ut to ally perfect. Thanks for sharing here today and weigh you another 29 perfect years now, too!! 🙂
dianeroark says
Janine,
Your pictures of you and Kevin on your wedding and the other ones with Kevin are precious. May God bless both of you forever.
Thanks so much for stopping by and linking up with my blog hop.
Blessings, Diane Roark http://www.recipesforourdailybread.com
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Janine Huldie says
Thanks so much Diane for saying that and totally my pleasure win linking up today!! Thank you again for hosting 🙂
anothercleanslate says
Love that he knows all the dirty details- those old relationships made you who you are today!
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Janine Huldie says
Thanks Kate and will say that I am truly thankful he does know, because I am not a good liar and couldn't have hid anything from him even if I tried!
The Dose of Reality says
Sappy? NAH!! I don't think so!! I think it's just perfect!! I could not agree with you more!! I think open and honest wins the day every time in a relationship. All of those experiences did make you who you are, and you guys are obviously perfect for each other!! –Lisa
Janine Huldie says
Thanks so much Lisa and glad you didn't think sappy, but know many would say I sounded a bit here, but totally from the heart and just the truth!! 🙂
@LRConsiderer says
You two are SO CUTE! 😀
Love the huge honesty and trust between you guys. That's very cool.
Janine Huldie says
Thanks so much Lizzi and I honestly just love that we are this comfortable even after so many years together!! 🙂
stephanie2006 says
Richard and I have sure shared the significant relationships with each other, but not still I did not share every detail. If he asked me, I'd tell him. Until he asks, I do have some little secrets 😉
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Janine Huldie says
Totally makes sense Stephanie and being that I have trouble keeping secrets though this would never work out for me in the long run! 🙂
Nellie says
I love that you were honest with him about your prior relationship. You guys look so fantastic now and I am so happy that you ended up with the one for you!! You guys really do make a beautiful couple!!
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Janine Huldie says
Thanks so much Nellie and I must admit I am just so happy that I finally found Mr. Right in Kevin!! 🙂
canigetanotherbottleofwhine says
Aw, this was sweet. And you wedding dress was GORGEOUS!
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Janine Huldie says
Thanks Kate and I must admit I loved my dress. Seriously, wish I hadn't had it cleaned and vacuum sealed, because sometimes I wish I could just try it on one more time, but I know it wouldn't have nearly the same effect as on our wedding day.
Rachel says
Ten years later! Yay! Beautiful tribute to a beautiful couple. Love the pictures!
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Janine Huldie says
Thank you so much Rachel and I loved sharing our 10 years here!! 🙂
Leah Davidson says
You have to be totally honest! You guys are just so cute together too! Both my husband and I have shared a lot about our pasts – given the fact that we were both previously married – and went through divorces. Funny enough (or not so funny for him initially) – I had heard all about the gory details of his divorce a year earlier – before I even met him. When i started dating him my friend pieced it all together , "You remember that story we heard where this woman left her husband for one of his very best buddies?" "Yeah?" "Sound familiar????" His ex left him for one of his very good friends (who obviously was a total loser – they deserved each other:)))
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Janine Huldie says
Well, they do say there is someone for everyone! But seriously, love how you did find out about Rob and his ex. And know you guys have a wonderful relationship and were totally meant for each other!! 🙂
catherine gacad says
janine, i love how honest you've been about everything. i think that's the best way to go. funny, dean and i haven't talked much about our past relationships because…there were just so damn many of them! we'd both dated a ton prior to finding each other so it was kinda useless to talk about all of it. although we will mention random stories every once in a while when something triggers a memory.
Janine Huldie says
Thanks so much Catherine and will say I had more relationships with Kevin, but shared as much as I could truly remember and all the gory details. To me, I am just too honest for my own good, but then again not a good liar so just have to tell it like it is, I suppose. 🙂