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Can you order a book from the book order for me?
That was the simple question asked of me early one morning recently by my younger daughter.
See the monthly Scholastic book order for her class was due that week. She had been looking at one of the Diary of the Wimpy Kid books in the book order.
However, same daughter had just started the Dork Diary series the evening before.
According to this same younger daughter she wanted to read Dork Diaries, because her older sister starting to read the series the year before in 2nd grade. So, she wanted to do the same.
However, she wanted to “Gold” colored book in the series. We didn’t have that one in our library. We must have borrowed if from the public library. She wanted to buy the book though.
Still this book wasn’t offered in the Scholastic order right now. So, tears as she wanted a book from the book order. But still wanted the Gold Dork Diaries book, too.
Since she had to get ready for school, I quieted her on this issue by telling her we would discuss further after school.
Flash forward to after school. Both girls came home from school. My older daughter was excited to share some news. She held an item behind her back to surprise her kid sister.
What was her surprise?
She took the “Gold” Dork Diaries book out of the school library. See it was her library day for the week. Since our older daughter is in 3rd grade she is now officially allowed to take out Dork Diaries from the school library. Little sister still in 2nd grade technically is not. So big sister told little sister, “I took the “Gold” Dork Diaries book out for you to read, because I knew you wanted it. But I also knew you still can’t take it out being only in 2nd grade.”
The look on my older daughter’s face as she shared this news with her little sister was absolutely priceless. She was so proud of herself. Why? Because she just wanted to do something nice for little sister to make her happy.
In that moment, I thought to myself that I must be doing something right. Then I witnessed my younger daughter not only hug and thank her big sister. But I also heard her say, “You filled your bucket.”
They are taught also in school to be bucket fillers. In kindergarten our school, reads this book, “Have You Filled a Bucket Today?”, to the kids and instills this in the kids over and over throughout the years.
So, I couldn’t agree more this was bucket filling to its fullest. But just sibling style.
Don’t get me wrong, my girls are sisters. Meaning that they do get along. And yet they also have their sisterly fighting moments. But overall, it is times like this that reminds me that their sibling bond is so very strong.
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How have we helped to teach and continually cultivate their positive sibling friendships?
Read on to find out now how to grow and embrace sibling friendships….
5 Easy Ways to Cultivate Sibling Friendships
1. Give them enough time to play together.
My two girls are honestly each other’s best friends. Don’t get me wrong they have their friends from school. But over the years, we have made sure that their sibling is the first and foremost friend. Meaning that if they do have a playdate with a friend at our own home, we make sure that they are still including their sibling in this outing. Still when they aren’t with another friend, my girls are also each others built in friend, too.
2. Spend time together with them, too.
While I make sure that my girls have more than enough time alone together, I also make it a habit to join in sometimes still, as well. This way, we are enjoying each other. But they also get their time to spend with mom, as well.
3. Make sure they know they need to respect each other.
I try often to let my girls work out their issues when they arise. However, I am here if they do need when they have their moments. Meaning that I have over the years, I have made sure to stress that they respect one another. But if they aren’t I am still here to jump in to remind them, too.
4. Let then have their own time and/or way to help one another.
Like the above book issue, my older daughter knew that she could help her sister. She has learned time and again in her short life that she is her little sister’s protector and helper. Conversely, my younger daughter also very much has her older sister’s back if and when need be. Simply this is because both my husband and I have continually cultivated this atmosphere in our home with both our girls.
5. When sibling acts of kindness do occur, make a big deal about them.
Once again, when the above act of book kindness occurred, I immediately let my older daughter know just how happy and proud of her I was for acting the way she did. Plus I not only allowed my younger daughter to get the Dirt of a Wimpy Kid book she had first been interested in, I also had my older daughter go through the book order to pick her own book to read and enjoy, too. So, positive reinforcement in these acts of kindness moments are key in helping to have them occur again and again.
There you have 5 easy and simple ways to help your kids have real sibling friendships with each other.
**This was written for this week’s FTSF with Kenya and Kristi, where we were to share a photo and story behind it. The photos of the book and of my girls loving on each other are all to help to share about the sibling friendships that both my girls have with one another.