“Keeping busy, helps the day move along.”
This was my husband’s text message response to me after asking me midday how I was feeling a day after I had been running a low grade fever and just overall felt worn out.
Trust me, I got it and he was right keeping busy does help at least let the day when you are sick go somewhat quicker. However, all I wanted to do was crawl into bed and pull the covers over my head even if I truly couldn’t.
But still, it was only a few weeks before this when he was sick with a low grade fever that he had literally taken to his bed for over four hours one afternoon to nap. Also for days, I heard how sick he was (mind you his fever never went above 100.4 degrees) and even how when he had been coughing during the night he swore that he heard wheezing. So, he was clearly on death’s door!
Yet, I am not feeling up to par, I am told to keep moving and not give into it.
And for the most part that is what I normally do, because as a woman and a mom, I truly can’t afford to stop and even shared how moms can’t get sick.
Still, I find that being sick is treated differently by a man/dad versus a woman/mom, because the man flu is apparently real and also quite severe at least in my home.
So I present purely for entertaining pleasure only, when this dad gets sick…
Wakes up to complain about it and not move for at least an hour.
Once he does move, he makes sure all around him know he is indeed sick.
For breakfast, he needs some citrus–maybe orange juice or possibly a cup of tea with lemon and honey, because he is sick.
Midday arrives and in case you didn’t know he was sick, he will make sure to tell you again. Then subsequently take to his bed, because he clearly is sick and possibly even dying.
When nap time is over, you get to hear a rising chorus of how miserable he is still feeling. And as much as you loathe the napping dad, you must admit at least he is quiet!
At dinner, he can barely eat it. Because don’t you know he is ill and just can’t stomach a meal on his death bed.
Is it bedtime yet? Because once again, he is sick.
Now it is clearly bedtime as he is by all appearance very much sound asleep, snoring and still so very sick though.
Next morning, repeat and rise with the man cold here. Because he is sick and even though he was clearly sleeping soundly beside you, he really allegedly wasn’t and is just so tired now. Appearances are and can most certainly be deceiving with this dad.
Conversely I give you when this mom gets sick…
Mom gets up before the alarm, even though she feels miserable, because she knows it will only be worse in the end if she doesn’t.
The day is a blur as she takes care of the normal and regular daily routine with breakfast, getting all out the door and more.
Mom eats when she remembers, because that is what happens on a normal day–sick or not.
She works, cooks, cleans, helps with homework, chauffeurs her children and so much more, because again that is just what moms do sick or not.
When mom’s bed calls her, someone always interrupts bedtime. Because once again sick or not, this is the drill.
Finally she hits the pillow, only to rehash in her brain all that she must take care of in the morning and the day to follow.
Wake up time already once again and this mom is ready to do it all over–well, sick or else.
Just once this mom would like to be this dad when she gets sick, but then again pretty sure she wouldn’t know how to do it even if she tried!
*I kid in jest here and no dads were harmed in the telling of this tale! Also, I must confess that my kids both got sick while I was still sick with the above mentioned virus, my husband did step up to the plate in more ways than one to help out. So, trust me this post was truly meant for a bit of levity and laughs after our house was what seemed like under quarantine for about 3 weeks from start to finish. So over the illnesses, snow and more that comes with winter time now. I have only one question, is it spring yet?
Kathy Radigan says
I so hear you!!! When I was pregnant with my third I had to be on a steroid, along with a lot of other meds. I was on these for the whole pregnancy. When the baby was about 3 weeks old my husband got poison ivy and had to take a steroid. He walked in on me while I was bathing my other two and I asked him for a hand, he said he couldn’t help me because he was on a steroid and had to be careful. He was really lucky I didn’t throw something at him!!! Lol!
Janine says
Oh man, Kathy sounds about right and seriously you are a better person than me, because not sure I wouldn’t have thrown something at him in that moment if it were me! LOL!!! 🙂
Seana Turner says
Such a funny and accurate observation. When my husband gets sick, we seem to be on the verge of a serious diagnosis and need lots of tlc. When I get sick, I’m not sure anyone really notices!
Janine says
I know, Seana most barely know when I am sick here, as well!
Nellie says
LOL yes!! when my husband gets sick…oh my gosh I can NEVER hear the end of it. He can barely lift a pinky!! Nice to know that I am not alone in this crazy!!
Janine says
Well, like I told Kathy, too – looks like I am in fine company at the very least!! 😉
Dara says
so true. my husband stayed home from work last week with a cold. If I had a cold, I’d be doing my normal things!
Janine says
Dara, I know trust me cold or not I am still doing all the normal stuff and more, too!
Emily says
Hahaha – too funny and yes, this happens in our house too. My husband had a man-cold that lasted for WEEKS! He finally went to the dr. and got some medications, but those were some very long weeks in our house. 🙂 I’m with you on counting the days until spring!
Janine says
Emily, he finally got medicine, too and then I had to hear the complaints of him taking said meds. And spring truly can’t come quick enough now! 😉
Lauren Baker Cormier says
Yup!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
😉
Lindsey Renninger Schuster says
haha… and i live with a lot of males 🙂
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Only one here and that one is enough LOL!! 😉
Bill says
Well, I hope you both get well soon. This is a tough subject for me because I’m never sick…so I’m working on empathy around our household. 🙂 Happy Tuesday, Janine. I’m off to my other job.
Janine says
Aw, we are better finally and fingers crossed it stays that way. Definitely though also wishing you a wonderful Tuesday at your other job now, too!! 🙂
Kelly says
Ugh! the worst part of being a stay at home mom is when Mom gets sick. I always ask my husband to call in, but he never does- unless he is the one sick!
Janine says
I know and truly agree with you on the stay at home mom and sick part totally, Kelly!
Lola Marguerita says
Nailed it.
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Thanks Lola!!! 😉
Kelly Caflisch-Arnoldussen says
I feel your pain.
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
I couldn’t agree more!!!
Alison Tedford says
I’m lucky mine isn’t like that! He works through everything.
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
You are truly lucky!!!
Kathryn Leehane says
I think my husband and I are both equally guilty of milking a fever as much as possible. 🙂
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
I like that it is equal and wish I could say the same! 😉
Diane Roark says
Hey lady,
You are hilarious but oh so true. We definitely have the man flu. Moms never get a sick day while dad’s cannot move off the couch at all.
Go Figure!
Thanks for making me feel not alone.
Daine
Janine says
Aw, my pleasure and honestly just glad I am not alone, Diane!! 🙂
Liz says
Had to laugh at “Now it is clearly bedtime as he is by all appearance very much sound asleep, snoring and still so very sick though.” I remember about a year after my daughter was born my husband and I both got hit with the worst food poisoning. Still when it was time to pick her up, who walked 20 blocks to the daycare, bookending arrival and departure with a vomiting session. That’s right, me.
Janine says
Sounds about right Liz and trust me I have been there too many times to count now, too!!
Jack says
The problem is that women don’t get sick like men. Science has proven that our illnesses are 987 times as bad as yours, so what is a guy to do. 😉
Janine says
LOL, Jack honestly you and my husband can totally shake hands and commiserate!! 🙂
Tamara says
haha, I’m laughing! I usually don’t like to poke fun at any sex, but the man flu thing seems real. Cassidy is sick right now, to be honest. He does things for himself and whatnot but when I was a kid, a cold meant I still went to school. He once took three days off of work for a cold with no fever.
Oh, if only.
Janine says
If only is right and usually I am politically correct, but just couldn’t resist LOL!! 😉
Amanda || Growing Up Madison says
I can’t stop laughing because that’s exactly how it is in my house too. I just think that us women are made of stronger stuff than men are. I get sick and I still do everything that has to be done but if my husband gets sick it’s the end of the world and he’s about to die. 😀 It’s great when they do step up to the plate though. Madison had an almost 105 fever last night and we both stayed up to take care of her until after 4am this morning and he had to be at work at 8.
Janine says
Aw, I hope Madison is OK and Emma runs high fevers like that. We aren’t new to it, but still scary when it happens. Thinking of you and hoping Madison is better very soon now!!
catherine gacad says
you are so funny. actually your husband is funny, but how you write about him had me cracking up. i’ve been sick and haven’t been myself lately, but oh well, motherhood must go on!
Janine says
Aw, I hope he reads this and sure he would love you for calling him funny. But still, hope you are feeling better still, Catherine 😉
Jayme says
Oh my goodness! I’m trying to not laugh out loud. My husband is such a hypochondriac (his doctor actually called him that!) He will work through a cold, but if he stubs a toe or gets a headache, I hear endless days of “Do you think x could be causing this? Do you think its serious? Would drinking water help? Would it be better if I stayed warm or cold? Will it be okay to eat peanut butter even if I have a broken toe?”
This is the thoughtful guy that worried about going into the OR with me for my C-section because “his legs might hurt if he had to stand too long. ” 😀
To be fair though, he will step up to the plate when needed and run errands for me. But it sure can be frustrating at times! I feel your sorrow. We gals don’t get much of a break!
Janine says
Jayme, your husband and mine sound like they could be fast friends as mine also has a bit of hypochondria, too where the slightest illness makes him think that it might be the onslaught of something far worse. And you are so right we girls do need a break now and again! 😉
Carrie Groneman says
Oh Janine, truer words were never spoken, even in jest!:) I love your story, though regrettably I’ve lived it way too many times myself. Dad’s do step in, when they are feeling better, of course, lol. Thanks for the giggle and always your tongue-in-cheek delightful humor. I just love your posts!!!
Janine says
Aw, thanks Carrie and I just couldn’t resist with a bit of humor here on this one for sure 🙂
Galit Breen says
Ha! So true!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Glad it isn’t just me!!! 😉
Bev says
Haha, I can relate! I tease my husband all the time when he gets sick. He’ll take a sick day and lay in bed all day when he has as cold. My day continues on as usual when I have one!
Janine says
Bev, totally sounds about right and more good company though for me with you, too on this!! 🙂
Dana says
My husband will certainly step up to the plate if I’m not feeling well. But when he gets sick , he is in bed for 24 hours, and completely useless!
Janine says
Dana, my husband is very similar to yours with both, too!
Allie says
The world stops spinning when my husband gets sick. Seriously! But when I’m sick, I need to suck it up, and keep things a float.
Janine says
Allie, totally the same here, too!!
Jen says
Oh the dreaded man-flu! It just might end humanity…. If they could convince us that they are that sick. Last week I was really sick and did just what he would do. Went and closed the door and let him deal. Hopefully the next time he gets sick, he won’t be such a baby.
Janine says
I love it and might need to remember this for the next time now!! 😉
Kenya G. Johnson says
That was hilarious! And mom gets up to get kids ready for school and goes outside to stand in freezing temps while she’s sick while dad is oblivious that wake up alarms have gone off. LOL! And of course the kids get sick because they haven’t been kept away from us. This reminds me, it’s really start time to take my Spring allergy medicine, though we aren’t contagious we all get sick if we don’t get a head start. I SMELL spring here even though it’s cold right now.
Janine says
Kenya, I want to smell Spring more than you know and I guess we just have to have hope now!! Thanks for the reminder that it will hopefully get it here soon enough and for tweeting once again, too! 🙂
Kim says
I tend to keep going when I am sick; it’s just something I’ve always done. I don’t want to admit defeat, I guess. But my husband is very helpful and actually enjoys cooking so often he will kick me out of the kitchen if I am not feeling well with instructions to go nap. Who am I to say no? 🙂
Janine says
I definitely wouldn’t say not to that either, Kim!! 🙂
Rabia @TheLiebers says
Ken had something before Christmas that he gave to me (thanks honey!) I tried not to make fun of him while he was sick, and when I got it, I realized how bad it was.
Janine says
I know whatever was going around in the last month was pretty bad and not wanting to let up on us here either!
Kristi Campbell says
LOL Janine! For real, I was LOLing this whole post because YES. If I’m sick, my husband is like “sorry you don’t feel well” but when he’s sick? The world is ending because he CANNOT MOVE. LOL haha. So true.
Janine says
LOL, Kristi and I know the world is apparently ending at times like these!! 🙂
Katherines Corner says
I hope you are feeling better my friend. If I could I would bring your chicken noodle soup.
I am very familiar with the Dad cold, LOL xo
Janine says
Aw, you are the best and seriously appreciate the offer of chicken soup any time from you!! Xoxo
Tiffany @ A Touch of Grace says
HAHA yes! This is so true Janine! Men are such babies about being sick I swear. Well, most men, not all. My dad never complained when he was sick.
Thanks for sharing at the Shine Blog Hop!
Janine says
Aw, so happy to share and have yet to meet a man in my life that doesn’t complain when they get sick still 😉
The Pinterested Parent says
Me & my girlfriend were just talking about this the other day. Lol! It is so so true. My husband is the worst patient ever.
The Pinterested Parent says
Me & my girlfriend were just talking about this the other day. Lol! It is so so true. My husband is the worst patient ever.
Janine says
I know and secretly glad it isn’t just me!! 😉
Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
My husband is the sweetest and almost always works from home when I am sick so that I can get a break.
Janine says
Aw, that is nice to hear! 🙂
April G says
Please, for a slight cold, my husband is worked on his butt for days while I haven’t had a day off in four years, unless it coincides with a day he’s off (like a Saturday). LOL.
Janine says
April sounds so familiar to me, too!!
Rea says
LOL! I do feel like my husband is like that too. He will rule the bed for the entire day when he is “sick”.. LOL. But to be fair, in cases when I’m sick, he’d take care of me too like I have a man cold/ or man flu.
Janine says
Aw, at least he will take care of you, too when you are sick, Rea 🙂
Rosey says
Oh my gosh Janine. You ain’t a kiddin’ I remember those days well. And I hated to get too sick to get out of bed (which does happen to us gals every blue moon too) because nothing would get done. So annoying/aggravating/ridiculous. I’m getting irked just thinking about it, lol. That being said, my little one is sick today. 🙁 Something’s def. in the air.
Janine says
Aw, so sorry about your little one and hoping he is better soon now. Hugs Rosey.
Christine Carter says
OH my gosh JANINE!!! I was laughing and nodding all the way through this!! You NAILED IT!! I bet you kept the day moving along just fine, didn’t ya? Now, will your husband read this? I honestly make fun of mine to his face, so I’m sure with how close you two seem, he probably can chuckle at the truth in this. I HOPE SO!
I could have written this post. Seriously. 🙂
Janine says
Thanks Chris and not sure if he read it or not, but like you nothing I haven’t said to his face written here either 😉
lisacng @ expandng.com says
Nice that your husband is good sport in this post. My husband might not find it has amusing. But I totally agree that men feel like they’re dying when they’re sick. Guess we just hide it better. The question is, can I break the cycle with my son? Or am I inadvertently raising a “i have a cold, i’m dying” man just because he has his dad as a role model??
Janine says
Aw, Lisa as a girl mom so not sure, but still glad my husband has a good sense of humor if nothing else 😉
Aunt Gloria says
I know that you were jesting somewhat and it was fun to read…..but I also think there is much truth to the “man cold” syndrome. I guess underneath it all the guys are still kids looking for special attention. Just keep well….all of you. Spring is on the way! Lots of love….xxoo
Janine says
Aw, thanks Aunt Gloria and just couldn’t agree more. Also, Spring is indeed on its way hopefully soon though now. Love to you, too xoxo
Lindsay Klein says
Oh man that is so true! It’s why women have the babies too, men are …………wimps;)
Janine says
Totally agree and my grandmother always said, “Let one man have a baby and the human race would die off!”
Tamara says
It’s a guys’ thing. We probably won’t understand.
There is a reason why God decided to entrust women with the mom job from going through pregnancy, giving birth, nursing until raising and letting go of their babies. Men are too busy surviving the flu 😉
Janine says
Totally a guy things and couldn’t agree with you more, Tamara! 🙂
karen says
just had to deal with this yet again. Tony slept in bed for three whole days!!! While I did everything… I posed a great side by side photo comparing a woman’s cold to a man’s cold…Going to make that my profile pic every time I am sick.
Janine says
I totally need to see that photo and I know the comparison is quite interesting if nothing else!