Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. No matter how long you and your partner have been together, there will always be arguments and disagreements, no matter how minor or major they might be. However, at a certain point, you might find that these arguments are becoming more frequent, you no longer share the same goals, you see the world differently or you are simply after falling out of love. When you reach this point, you might start wondering if divorce might be on the cards.
Considering a divorce is a big decision and one that you should consider carefully. If you follow through and get a divorce it is all but impossible to come back from and even if you and your partner patch things up somewhere down the line, it’s unlikely things will ever be the same again. What’s more, divorce affects more than just you and your partner as it can affect your families, common friends, other relationships and of course your children if you are parents. Before you pick up the phone to call a family law firm, it’s important to take a moment to decide if divorce is really the best option.
Continue reading to find out if divorce is right for you or if there are other avenues that you can explore.
As the old adage goes, “a problem shared is a problem solved”. Have you and your partner sat down and talked about the problems in your marriage? If you have been ignoring the issues for years on end, it can be difficult to have a proper discussion about them. If you feel that you won’t be able to have a conversation without it turning into a shouting match, try meeting somewhere public like a cafe or a park where you will both be more inclined to be civil. Talking things out can often be one of the simplest solutions to any relationship problem and should not be overlooked.
If you can’t work things out between you, then counselling is always worth a shot. You can go to counselling as an individual to talk about the things that are bothering you and hopefully gain a fresh perspective to help you deal with whatever is going on. Alternatively, you can ask your partner to come to a couple’s counselling session with you in an effort to fix the relationship. While this can be very effective in some cases, in others even the mention of couples’ counselling can be enough to cause further arguments so be sure to proceed with caution. The last thing you want is for one of you to feel like you are being put on the spot or beginning some sort of blame game.
Get Some Distance
While it might sound counter-productive, sometimes distance is the best way to gain some perspective. You don’t need to move out or take any drastic actions. Instead, just start living your life. Meet your friends more often, take up a hobby, go to the gym, and do anything else you can to take your mind off the problems in your relationship and the thoughts of divorce. If you have been thinking about divorce for weeks or months on end, it can be useful to put yourself into a different headspace and gain some perspective before resorting to divorce.
Do What You Can To Save Your Marriage Before Divorce
Exploring all of the options available to you before deciding for sure that you want a divorce is always the best approach. The last thing you want is to be looking back on your relationship in years to come and be left wondering “what if…?”. Every relationship goes through hard times and in many cases everything works out for the best. In other cases, however, divorce is the best solution. Fight for your marriage before you make the leap to divorce and see what the best outcome is for both you and your partner moving forward.