Welcome back to Finish The Sentence Friday Blog Hop (FTSF). We give you a sentence and you finish it (however long or short you’d like).
“I get so frustrated when…”
Next week’s sentence to finish: ”Speaking from experience, I’m going to give you a little advice on…”
I get so frustrated when when people can’t admit they are wrong or say they are sorry, especially Kevin. I write a lot on my blog about how many wonderful qualities my husband has, but he also has one bad habit, which is that he has trouble saying he is sorry and never really wants to admit when he makes a mistake or is wrong.
Now, I know what you are probably saying that most people don’t want to be wrong and that I, too, probably have my fair share of bad habits. Guess what? I am pretty sure you would be correct on both accounts, but still bare with me.
At this point in my life I have met a lot of different types of people and some that even wanted to be right when they were wrong. The first person that I ever had the privilege of knowing and loving who was like this was my own grandmother. And my grandfather (her husband) had a saying about about her (yes he was quite the sarcastic teaser, thus where I get this from). This saying went as follows: “She might not always be right, but she is never wrong!”
Seriously, he has been long gone for over 14 years this month and I can still hear him clear as day saying this and even cracking himself up a bit when uttering this sentence about her. See my grandparents were married for over 50 years, loved each other dearly, but could fight and still laugh about their fights after all that time. So, I did truly admire their relationship.
That said, my husband and I are, I think, a bit similar to them in the fact that we can argue with the best of them and still laugh about it when it is all said and done. I know I have written about that point in particular more than a few times now, but the thing that gets my feather ruffled just a bit with him is usually the fact that when we do argue he has a way of deflecting his fault and making it like he didn’t do anything wrong. God if I had a penny for every time he said he was sorry, I would still be quite poor!! Now, please also don’t think I delude myself in thinking I am always right, but seriously after seven years of marriage I also not always wrong either!
This Sums Up How Kevin Thinks He Is Right More Often Than Not!!
I, on the other hand, have been known to say that I am sorry more times than I probably should, because as a small child, when my stubborn streak kicked in and I didn’t want to say this, my mother pretty much pounded this one into my thick head. So I learned this lesson and quite well that at 35 years old, I say I am sorry pretty quickly, because it is now just such a part of me.
Not sure really which is worse, not being able to say I am sorry or saying it too much in reality, but for me it would be not saying it. This one drives me quite mad. That said, I love Kevin just as he loves me for the good and the bad. So, I will leave it that as as much as it frustrates me, I still can’t help, but love him even when I would like to strangle his non-sorry self!! Enough said, now onto this week’s blog hop!!
Now tell me, in the comments, about times when you were indeed frustrated (you’re in good company as you can see from above). Or write a post and link it up! And be sure to share my story with all your FB and Twitter friends. We’ll also be featuring some of our favorites on Twitter with the Hashtag #FTSF and our Facebook pages too, so make sure to follow. Don’t forget to grab a button and put it somewhere people will see. We’d are hoping to keep this hop going strong and continue this for a long time to come!
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Bill says
I get so frustrated when I get so frustrated. 🙂
Janine Huldie says
Lol, Bill. And that truly does make sense to me!! 🙂
Kat Biggie says
First of all – congrats on the BlogHer publishing! I noticed that right away! (sorry if that happened a day or two ago, I have had two very crazy days of appointments!) Second of all, you and your hubby sound just like me and mine. he can never admit he's wrong, and he NEVER says he is sorry. I, on the other hand, practically yell out I'm sorry if you even look at me. aaarrrggh. I want to link up but I can't… you'll see why tomorrow!!! I will get back to FTSF soon!!!
Janine Huldie says
Thanks so much Alexa seriously for saying that and am so excited about BlogHer publishing. Now, I am dying to know what is going on tomorrow, lol!! One way to find out and will be there in there in the morning to read and share on your blog!! 🙂 Happy to know by the way it isn't just me with saying I am sorry more than I probably should and now I know even more so why we get along so much!!
Janine Huldie says
No apology necessary and agree that I was taught how to say these words and so true about it being the bigger person. Again, I am truly starting understand why we too are friends!! 🙂
gigigirl says
I was thinking about your grandfather today….may he RIP. Your grandmother, my sister, was very strong willed and could be frustrating with her need to be right. But both of them were loving people who really cared about family. I guess that's the bottom line and an example for us all. I find I don't get too frustrated about things these days…..I'm mellowing with age! You and Kevin have a sound and secure family and know how to make your marriage work. That's worth a lot. Love you both…..
Janine Huldie says
Thanks Aunt Gloria and so true about them being an example for all of us. Maybe I too will mellow with age. Hey, it can happen, lol!! Thanks and love to you, too 🙂
Dawn says
Yes, that is frustrating! My mom has it down…Now, T, you were wrong, what do you tell me? He says, "I'm sorry, I was wrong"…I think the only couple in the world who have this going on!
Janine Huldie says
Lol, Dawn my mom used to be like that with my dad (he is old fashioned), but somehow she has found her backbone in her older age and when I hear her stand up to him, I get smiles from ear to ear!! 🙂
Melanie Chisnall says
Oh yes, I agree with you here Janine! Like you, I feel like I'm also the one saying sorry most of the time. I hate fighting and just want to resolve the fight. I don't say it just for that, I really mean it. But I get very frustrated when my husband is still angry and won't talk to me for an hour. By the time he's feeling all fine and comes to say sorry for being a big baby, I'm all mad again and want to punch something. Fun times! Lol. Marriage is amusing sometimes. I think God just enjoys sitting up there having a good chuckle now and then!!
Janine Huldie says
Oh I think you may be right about God getting a good chuckle and I swear in my case sometimes I think it is my grandparents, too lol!! That said, I am so with you on this one and seriously can truly relate!! Thanks Melanie for sharing and also letting me know it isn't just me!! 🙂
Janine Huldie says
Melanie, sorry you can relate, but thanks for letting me know it isn't just me!!
Janine Huldie says
Oh I have been there too Kate and I am not a fan of that either. Glad that you liked that part and seriously I would never do it, but yes I have had visions of it, lol!! 🙂
Cyndi says
I get so frustrated when life throws me more lemons than I can juice at the same time. 😀 Lovely post and have a wonderful Friday! Good luck with the blog hop – after the Wordless Wednesday and hosting yesterday's…I'm all hopped out, LOL
Janine Huldie says
Lol Cyndi and seriously I can totally understand!!! Have a great weekend, too 🙂
Angel Shrout says
My husband is the world's worst about this. It drives me INSANE. What makes it worse is he will make the boy's apologize if they were wrong, and I am constantly pulling him off and saying how can you make them do what You yourself won't do and they see you not do it? Especially if it comes to me. Like if there is something wrong with something mechanical and I say oh I think it is this and he will argue me only to find out I was right. GRRR totally understand this.
Janine Huldie says
Oh Angel sounds like your husband is very similar to my own and just sorry that you too have to deal with this. That said I am truly glad it is something like this and not something worse though!!
Joan Veronica Robert says
Hi Janine, a good read! I loved your Grandad's description, I think I will keep it around to apply to lots of people I know!
Some profound thoughts here, and important when bringing up children! See you!
Janine Huldie says
Oh thank you Joan and I too loved my grandfathers's thought on this one. There are a few things he said that stick with me and I have used myself and this is just one of them. Somewhere he smiling knowing he is getting quoted!! 🙂 Have a great weekend!!
Considerer says
Lol. I know that feeling. I think the worst one I ever had from a person was the 'saying sorry but not at all sorry' phrase of "Well I'm sorry it's made you feel that way."
Janine Huldie says
Oh I hate that so much when they say, but don't mean it. So not right. Thanks a ton for sharing and for linking up again as always, too!! 🙂
Rita Abitabile says
I love when you quote one of Poppy's sayings! He was so wise in so many ways and knew how to handle the "stubborn one" (Nana), mostly with humor and love. Thanks for crediting me with teaching you and Michael to always apologize. You and he have great attributes. Love you lots.
Janine Huldie says
Oh thanks mom and you know I do quote him often, because truly just knew what to say in any given situation. Love you too 🙂
Kevin says
Remember Janine, "you mess with the bull you get horns." From your loving Irish Taurus. Hey stubbornness and the inability to say "i'm s#rry" (see can't even bring myself to type it) is written in the stars. Love ya.
Janine Huldie says
Lol, I love you Kevin more than words will ever be able to say even though you are stubborn and can't say you are sorry!! Hugs and kisses!! 🙂
The Next Step says
lol, I'm always right too. you can ask my college roommate. 🙂
Janine Huldie says
Lol, Lori. You and Kevin would get along swimmingly!! 🙂
Ruchira says
haha…I hear ya sista.
Male chauvinists are not born everyday so, gotta take that with a little sprinkle of salt and a strong shot of vodka…lol
Happy Friday, Janine and voted for ya on TMB
Janine Huldie says
Lol, Ruchira. Don't I know it. Thanks so very much and just did the same for you, too!! 🙂
Roshni Aamom says
ha! My husband used to be a like that, but now, he's really mellowed down!
Janine Huldie says
Oh so I have hope? thanks Roshni for giving me a bit!! Seriously, thank you and have a great weekend 🙂
kenyagjohnson says
I love your grandfather's saying. My husband doesn't like that I have to have the last word which would be much like that picture (explaining why I am right). My husband doesn't apologize either. Not unless it's for a fart, you know one of those really sick ones. I have often wondered if its because as a Marine he couldn't/wouldn't/didn't make mistakes to apologize for. So it's not ingrained in him. Adding our pennies, you and I would be quite poor together.
Janine Huldie says
Lol, I guess we will never be rich then Kenya!! Seriously, it sounds very much like you can relate and seriously this is so frustrating for sure!! Thanks for sharing though. You and a few others today have made me feel a bit better knowing I am so not alone on this one.
Lanaya @ Raising Rea says
That's a good one! I feel the same way. Just admit it already!
I get frustrated when my daughter's attitude goes from lovey to hell on wheels in 60 seconds flat!
What is that all about anyway? Ugh!
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Janine Huldie says
So true and I feel the same way when either Emma or Lily do the same thing!! So frustrating!! 🙂 xoxo!!
Maggie Amada says
I'm passive-aggressive so I manage to proof I'm right on the main point even though I apologize for the peripherals. Drives my husband insane. My husband only apologizes if he really means it, which I admire but find frustrating.
Happy Friday!
Janine Huldie says
I am more indecisive, but I do know this much I know how to say I am sorry, but sometimes wish I could be more like Kevin, because then I wouldn't care either. Thanks Maggie 🙂
Janine Huldie says
Yes, Amy I am with you on the 100% and I too have no problem admitting it!! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Emily says
I didn't link up this week, but am commenting anyway…it's the reverse in our house..I can be the one who thinks she always right (because I am!! – haha). It frustrates my hubby, but I'm working on admitting when I'm wrong, as infrequent as that is. 🙂
Janine Huldie says
Thanks for sharing Emily and seriously you and Kevin could so shake hands on this one!! 🙂
Eddy Jones says
Another great read Janine ;keep them coming and I wish you a wonderful weekend.
Eddy.
Janine Huldie says
Oh thanks again Eddy and you too have a wonderful weekend!! 🙂
Kristi Campbell says
He can still learn to say he's sorry! When I was a kid, my parents teased me that I always had to be right. As I've gotten old(er), it's come a lot easier for me to realize that I'm not always right and to say I'm sorry when I need to.
Your sentence that if you had a penny for every time your husband has said he's sorry, you'd still be quite poor is funny 🙂
Janine Huldie says
So true Kristi and maybe I can teach this old dog new tricks. One never knows. As for having my pennies, I wish, lol 🙂
Janine Huldie says
Oh Kelly, I think you may be right about this. There someone told you you were right and happy to do that for you if you do it for me, lol!! Seriously, I don't remember the last time I was actually allowed to be right, so I know exactly what you mean!
Stephanie Sprenger says
Just one more thing we have in common…at this very moment I am waiting for my husband to apologize to me for snapping at me yesterday. He knows I am upset, and I am still waiting…. he too is a fantastic husband and dad, but is really crappy about apologizing. It drives me CRAZY….
Janine Huldie says
Stephanie, I felt all sappy for about a two days after Valentine's Day for Kevin. Then, of course, he said something and did something to drive me crazy. He wouldn't say sorry as usual and was ready to strangle him. So, yes I can totally understand and feel for you, too!!
Mai Bateson says
Reading your story, I am blessed that my hubby never fails to say sorry when he did me wrong. I totally admire this great character of him! As you've said, your husband has so many wonderful qualities; I guess just stick on his great traits. When I am mad with my hubby, I just list down the good qualities about him just to ease my anger. But it’s still good to take the chance of talking to him about it so you will have transparency in your marriage. Great read, Janine! Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Janine Huldie says
Mai, ironic or not this past weekend I did get him to say sorry twice. So I think he is working on this, but I didn't get to write a post up yet. So, I shared this and happy to 🙂
Happy Wives Club&tra says
I get so frustrated when…people who are charged with providing customer service don't actually like providing customer service. I'm working on not letting that bother me much as I know so many are going through tough times and not all those who sign up to "provide service" actually want that job. It's just a paycheck. Still working on wrapping my head around that :).
Janine Huldie says
That is so true and very frustrating indeed. There are really too many people out of work for this to be happening now. Thanks so much having the linkup today and as always very happy to try and link up.