The phone rang around 2 pm on a recent Thursday afternoon. When I glanced at caller id, I noticed my girls’ school nurse’s number.
As I anxiously picked up, I was informed that both girls were OK, but that my older daughter had bumped heads with another classmate during recess. She had been to the nurses office for ice and had a small bump on her head, but went back to class as she was otherwise fine for the last hour or so of the school day.
When she got off the bus at dismissal, I casually asked her, “How is your head? I heard you bumped it at recess.”
“No, mommy I didn’t bump my head at all,” she proceeded to calmly answer.
We had homework to do and an after-school activity to attend. So, I just let it go as I didn’t see any physical bump at all either.
An hour or so later, we were getting into the car to indeed attend that afternoon’s activity at hand, when my little one innocently stated, “Here is the bump on my head that I got at recess from bumping heads with ‘J’ at recess.”
Sure enough there was a tiny raised bump on her head upon closer inspection.
It was then that it dawned on me that the school nurse confused the two girls while she was treating my younger girl thinking it was her older sister.
The point here is that although my girls aren’t twins, most that lay eyes on them think they are, because they are only a year apart in school and 16 months difference in actual age.
Plus my older daughter has always been petite for her age and my younger is just average size for age. So they somehow meet in the middle for size and they look pretty similar, as well. So, they could for the most part pass easily as fraternal twins for those who may not know them.
So makes sense that the school nurse made this harmless error. Plus, I am constantly getting asked by strangers time and again, if the girls are indeed twins.
So, when I was asked if I would be interested in reading, Multiples Illuminated: A Collection of Stories and Advice From Parents of Twins, Triplets and More by Megan Woolsey and Alison Lee, I was more than happy to an advance copy, because even though I am not technically a twin mom, instances as I described above make me often enough feel like I am an honorary one.
See Multiples Illuminated is a compelling collection of stories from writers and parents of multiples, as well as expert advice that is a must-have for all parents and grandparents of multiples. It dives deep into the world of raising multiples with beautiful stories and helpful advice, plus a little added humor sprinkled in along the way.
In it, you will find essays on topics such as:
- Infertility help and hope;
- Finding out and coping with a multiples pregnancy;
- Stories of labor and delivery; stories from the NICU;
- Breastfeeding best practices for multiples;
- Surviving the infant and toddler stages.
I guarantee you will find stories you love in Multiples Illuminated as I have found a few myself.
One of my favorites is The Main Attraction, by Briton Underwood, because no matter where we seem to go just as the author of this essay marveled during their local aquarium visit, most people are too busy to take in the sights wherever we go, too and usually more interested in the most extraordinary sight of my two and finding out if they are twins.
This is usually followed by all sorts of questions about how it was to have my girls so close in age and more than I can ever begin to explain here. And also just like Britton further explained that his own kids are “wonders of the modern world”, so too are mine. Still though also like Britton, I would also ask those same intrigued people to “Please don’t pet my children.”