“When she is upset, she wails like a little old, Italian lady that is at a funeral!”
My mother recently said this about Lily when she gets upset and doesn’t get her way, because she screams and cries very loudly with tons of emotion.Case in Point~Lily Crying During Emma & Kevin’s Game
Guess what? I am in total agreement.
If you don’t believe me you should have been there last week, when I had to tell her we needed to leave the pre-school playground, because she was throwing around sand like it was a day at the beach.
I swear nothing is worse then having to bath and wash her hair (which by the way she loathes and detests!) after she has indeed been throwing sand in her hair.
Well, she wouldn’t budge or leave the playground. Emma actually listened and when Lily wouldn’t leave, I told her we were indeed leaving. I was bluffing as I walked away, waving goodbye and apparently she sensed it and just stood there digging her heels further into the sand.
There were two other grandmothers of kids there and through all of this they must have thought what a wonderful parent I truly was (not!).
I finally had to lift her off the playground kicking and squirming out of my arms, while shouting “no” and whatever else came to her tiny little mind at that moment to let me know she was unhappy with this turn of events.
I had to put her down to get Emma in the car and then the fun part of having to try to lift her up again, when she had now made herself limp. I seriously am not sure how I did finally pick her up or get her into her car seat (bad lower back and all), because again limp child equates to me that I am now not getting any work done while I was sitting there thinking of all the work I did have to accomplish when I got home Why? Because I was being held hostage by an almost 3 year old, who would not let me buckle her into her carseat to indeed leave to go home.
I even placed a call to my husband to talk her down. Yup, that didn’t work. I finally just held her down as best as I could and got her buckled. Then came the 10 minute long car ride home of her shouting at the top of her lungs, protesting loudly and crying for about 20 minutes even after I finally got her out of her carseat (by the way the child that didn’t want to get into the carseat now didn’t want to leave it) and in the house.
Seriously, after this I thought of what tips I could come up with and share to all the busy moms out there dealing with tantrums and so much more from their kids. And remember this was only one incident from one of my two kids on one day in my life. I have had plenty of them, so I have had time to reflect to share with you.
So without further ado, here are my tips to help us busy moms out in times like what I experienced and so much more.
Keep your days as varied as your purse will allow~
One of the most reported stressors for stay at homes moms (or dad’s ) is the repetitive nature of the job. Day in day out, the tasks are the same. This repetitive strain could be seen as tantamount to torture so make sure you incorporate some variation into your week. Meet with friends, bake, take the kids on trips. All of these things may seem like more effort when exhausted but will actually lead to more mental peace.
Take ten minute breaks~
Now, I am aware that this isn’t possible when babies are tiny, and leaving them alone is never a good idea. However, if a pal pops round or they are down for a nap, use that time wisely. The instinct to dart around and tidy up must be fought and make sure you do something purely for you. Meditate, write a letter, read a book, play online bingo. Whatever it is you do to unwind now is your moment to indulge. Albeit briefly, the deviation away from children’s time will make you feel more equipped to get through the rest of your day.
Learn to live with the mess~
One of the biggest stressors reported by stay at home parents is the constant battle with your child and the trail of destruction that they leave. Instead of following them round clearing up, learn to deal with it. Then, at the end of the day, when the children are tucked up in bed make a mad dash of getting their toys together. You can obviously pick up crayons and stuff as they move onto a new toy, just don’t make a full time job of keeping your house immaculate. You are a parent and people understand what that means.
Make the most of car time~
Sitting in the car with the kids can be one of the only quite times in the day. They are strapped down for one so you can focus on the job in hand. Use this time to catch up with something you love, be it an audio book, or learning a language, the CD deck can become your best friend and you can soon find yourself looking forward to those journeys.
Cooking is fun~
This sounds very obvious but use your preparation of meals as a time to entertain the kids. Get them involved, prepping the veg or baking the dessert. It can be a great activity to not only keep the kids enraptured but also keep you on top of your chores.
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