Paved my road to hell??
Sounds crazy, but as crazy as it sounds is pretty straight forward and simple once I tell you a bit of a chilling (I think most moms would agree once they do indeed here this one) story.
Most have probably heard of the saying, “The Road to Hell Is Paved with Good Intentions!”Couldn’t Have Said It Better As a Mom to Small Kids!
Hell, I grew up with an uncle, who used this saying often enough for many different circumstances. I admit back then it had a different meaning to me, but nowadays as a mom, truly has taken on a life of its own.
And yet this particular day started out like any other and then how it took such a loud and unforeseen turn I will never know, but then again when dealing with a pre-school age child, you never quite know when you will wake the inner beast that lives and lays dormant inside of them to find yourself wishing you could rock in the corner when all is said and done.
However, my morning was fairly simple and took my time to catch up with all I needed to do as far as work and errands, too were concerned.
I had planned on going to get my hair touched up and cut after I picked up Lily from pre-school.
See, my cousin is a hairdresser and she was able to do my hair for me on this day. Usually, my mom will babysit, but this day in question, she was bringing her youngest to the shop, who is the same age as Lily being in pre-school, as well. So, we thought the two could hang out and play together.
When we got in the car, I told Lily she was coming and she would get to play with her cousin. She was excited and kept asking on the 5 minute car ride, “If we were there yet?”
When we parked, I shared that we were going to get Munchkins as Dunkin Donuts munchkins to bring for the two of them to snack on and got myself a Pumpkin Spice Iced Coffee (was a pretty warm day still for Fall).
All seemed calm and Ok on the surface. But once I ordered and was waiting for our order, Lily turned into something that would have made Linda Blair and her Exorcism days proud.
She began to scream, cry, stomp her feet and just be completely loud, as well as irrational (yup, true temper tantrum little kid fashion).
At first, I admit I was stumped and stunned (don’t get me wrong, I have seen it all with Lily and Temper Tantrums as shared here). But still, if you would have told me on the way there that she would be pitching a fit while waiting on getting munchkins of all things, I am not sure I would have believed this.
So, what was the reason for all the fuss?
She was having a world class temper tantrum over not wanting munchkins, but a regular sized pink donut, because yes pink is her favorite color after all and I should have known this all along.
As Adam Sandler once stated calmly in The Wedding Singer, “Once again, things that could’ve been brought to my attention YESTERDAY!!”
Quite simply had Lily shared her desire for a pink donut before I purchased the munchkins, I probably would have just ordered donuts, but of course standing there with this beastly child in tow while other Dunkin Donuts patrons looked on in horror (you know that look – even if you have kids, you are just thanking god that it isn’t your kid acting that way in the moment!).
So, I had to get our order and extricate Lily out of Dunkin Donuts, while in mid meltdown.
Yup, fun times – NOT!
I will say, once I took her back to the car to calm down and discipline her bad behavior, we were able to go into the shop. The kids got to play and I got my hair done.
Moral of the Story – The road to getting a haircut and a pre-Sschool playdate is paved with Dunkin Donuts Munchkins in my hell!
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Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
OMG, she IS my 7 year old. He has had fits over absurd things like that many times and yes, we have had that exact meltdown when we got him a donut when he wanted munchkins.
Lisa @ The Golden Spoons says
Oh my!! The things they find to have meltdowns over, huh?? We went to a wedding last night and my youngest (7) got a little attitude when we left. I asked what she was so upset about and she said it was because she didn’t get to dance. Yet – I had told her before she left that we were leaving in 15 minutes and specifically said “If you want to dance, you need to go right now!” Oy!!!
Gotta love those kids!!! This is why I use the drive-thru 🙂 hahaha hang in there mama, we’ve all been there…
Janine, seriously, what were you thinking *not* reading Lily’s mom? Obviously as moms we’re supposed to be able to read our children’s minds! 😉 Oy, sorry you had to deal with this. I’m grateful Eve is still too young to have tantrums, I am not looking forward to those days!
Ginny Marie says
Oh, we’ve all been there, haven’t we! My daughters both had huge meltdowns this weekend right before bedtime. At least we were home, but wow! It was painful for all of us!
Amanda @ Growing Up Madison says
OK it’s not funny but it is. I have had them in Victorias Secret of all places which is worst I think but I deserved it. She was tired and I just had to go into that one last store. I am so missing DD right now, there is only 1 store here in CO Springs and it’s about 30 minutes drive away so I don’t get them as much as I would like, compared to NY where it seemed like they were on every corner. 🙂 Here’s a meltdown free week!
HA HA HA HA!! I only really laugh because we recently had a 1st grade style tantrum at Dunkin Donuts over this VERY same issue!! Kids are just exhausting, am I right?! ;)-Ashley
Hahaha, the title of this post is BRILLIANT! Isn’t it amazing how something so small can become so big?!
Diane Roark says
If it makes you feel better, we have all been through it. You handled it well. I found the best way to handle it was always to remove them from the situation, But I like pink too! Hopefully, next time she will use her words and tell you before you order.
Have a great week!
Yep…I was nodding my head while reading about the tantrum….oh my, I don’t miss much of that age. LOL Good luck this week, Janine. Have a wonderful Monday.
Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom says
Oh my goodness. When I first read the title of this post, I thought, “Now what can this possibly be about?” Now I know.
What a moment. Oh, and I get those moments too.
Like when I made the mistake of flushing the toilet before my 3-year-old had a chance to do it. Really?! My pee, my flush… that’s what I think anyway. LOL
Thanks for sharing. I must admit, I had a bit of a chuckle.
Pure Grace Farms says
Thanks for the chuckle today, even if it was at your expense it made me smile just picturing it. The trauma of a pre-schooler, right? I am sure she was over it 5 minutes later. Gotta love it!
Carrie Groneman says
Oh, girl, the mother-hood thing is a tricky beast. You are fabulous and this too shall pass to be a funny memory – in about 10 years, lol. Keep on smilin’, you’re doing a wonderful job my friend. Carrie, A Mother’s Shadow
Rabia @TheLiebers says
Kids freak out about the weirdest things, don’t they!! They other morning, my son screamed at me because he “didn’t want that much cereal” in his bowl. As I start taking some out, he gets louder and louder. After much confusion and lots of deep breaths, I figured out that he didn’t want *that* much; he wanted MORE!! OMG!!!!
Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama says
lol at the Adam Sandler clip!! One of my favorite movies/lines ever!!! I know exactly what this situation is, my son lately has started freaking out WITHOUT telling me whats going on. Its so frustrating!
For some reason, I kept thinking of when you really just wanted Peeps on your Easter donuts! Remember that? Although they were really cool about it.
I love Adam Sandler. And I love that quote. And I use it a LOT!
If Scarlet gets a donut, she only eats the frosting. Des loves to get chocolate munchkins.
Kenya G. Johnson says
I think I read the short story of this on FB. I felt bad for you. Thankfully Christopher’s fallouts were always in the house. Only two times he has a melt down in Target and one in Walmart. The Target one he was sick and I was in there for medicine. The Walmart one he wasn’t getting something that he wanted and that one really made me mad because he was too big to be acting that way.
lisacng @ expandng.com says
I can totally relate. Kids change their minds, or make up their minds too late. ARGH! At least when we adults do it, we huff and puff and blow up later. Not in the middle of DD. Hope your haircut went well though and it was good you had a sugary drink to soothe you :).
OH, no!! I read this story laughing because that was my life for about 4 months when Hunter was 3. The craziest (non-fit-worthy) things would and did set him off multiple times every single day. I became a bit of a hermit for a few months because I couldn’t handle the tantrums in public!!!
Hopefully there aren’t any more munchkin induced fits in your near future!!
Christy Birmingham says
Oh dear oh dear! Lily was not impressed and that sounds like quite the tantrum! I’m glad all ended on a good note and you got your hair done too 🙂
Lisa @ The Meaning of Me says
Tantrum over wanting pink donuts rather than cute Munchkins sounds about right. Kidzilla would likely do the same – she loves a pink donut. Although, now that she can’t have any food dyes, I suspect the Munchkins would probably do just fine. These are the things that matter to the preschool set!
Ya just never know. I remember just walking out once while my daughter threw a tantrum (a small consignment shop). I could see her through the door, but the other patrons were HORRIFIED, hahaha, and my daughter stopped crying and came outside. Little bugger. She still throws a tantrum every once in awhile, but it’s a teen kind now 😉
Glad you got your hair done!
I thought all kids loved munchkins?! Although I don’t blame her for wanting the pink donut… poor Janine!
How dare you get her the wrong donut? Classic meltdown story, Janine. Glad you were still able to get your hair done, because that was really the most important thing. 🙂
Ha – well, as a donut lover myself, I totally understand her tantrum.:) But seriously, I admire the fact you didn’t get back on line and order the pink donut to calm her down. I would have caved just to quiet my kid down – you did the right thing mama!
Oh goodness. I have so been there! Tantrums are the worst. Good for you for staying strong and calm!
What a “hellish” experience, how can that angel throw a tantrum?? I have totally been in experiences like this before! One of my children once did this at a store we were at and my husband happened to be there with me. He took what we had just purchased for the ranting child and threw it in the trash right in front of them!!Well the tantrum then grew to epic proportions and we had to drag said kid out of the store, but on a good note now when we threaten to throw their items away, they know we mean it 🙂
So sorry to hear about the super tantrum and I can certainly feel the same way sometimes with my son. Yesterday he asked me to fix his toy car but the parts wouldn’t fit because it’s the wrong toy car he’s giving me and I kept on telling him that but he still cried and cried so I just had to tie the parts with a rubber band! Haha and he was happpy! I love Dunkin Donuts by the way.
We all have those moments! Thanks for sharing with the Thursday Blog hop!
OMG, the title totally drew me in. I still get attitude from my 9- and 12-year olds about things like this, but it’s more underlying, seething anger than meltdowns. Does it end when they’re adults?!/
The Pinterested Parent says
I love that you & your husband have these text convos. A lot of the things that I see you post on her are similar to texts that my hubby & I have shared. These meltdowns are something else. Some of them are dizzying. Mai just had one the other day because she wanted me to put her back in her dirty diaper. What??? I have had a meltdown in my 40’s over wanting a full donut. I know how she feels. LOL! Good luck mama.
Super annoying!!!! You know I’m in that phase and I hate this about it sooo much. Don’t tell me I might have to deal with this at age 3 or maybe even 4? Ahhh! I am doing my best to nip it in the bud now. So glad that moment is over for you all. I could have only imagined.
Aunt Gloria says
Oh well….we all have our “Italian” moments! And unfortunately, I still do! Hopefully Lily will get to the place where she can let you know how she feels and what she wants before the fireworks. But glad it all ended well. Life with kids….you just never know what will happen next! Happy weekend. Love to all…..
OMG…so been there. Before we stopped eating dunkin donuts, Anthony would have a FIT if you bought him a jelly donut…the world would end. One time there was some jelly on a munchkin and I heard about it for weeks.
Love that movie…
PUMPKIN SPICE Donuts… I had one this morning but I was the only one who was feeling a pre-donut meltdown haha. Thanks for linking up with us a the Mommy Needs a Timeout Thursday Linky. Hope to see you again this week. Party starts Wednesday night at 8 pm EST!
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Melanie Chisnall says
Just thought I’d stop by and say “hi!” – I know it’s been a while. That pumpkin spice muffin looks SO good!!! Always get jealous of your fall weather around this time – but I’ll still be baking my annual pumpkin pie on Halloween (scary movie night here – our own mini tradition!) That’s one of my favourite Adam Sandler movies… it’s so funny! Have a great one! 🙂
Brittany Bullen says
I was just having a conversation about this subject with some girlfriends yesterday. What do you do when you’re in public and you just want to stop the screaming, but you also don’t want to give in and give them what they want and reinforce the bad behavior? So often we just cave, when really we should do what you did and just remove the kid from the situation!
This is certainly not easy to do, so good for you for doing the good parent thing!
Now all I can think of is how much I want a donut… dang it!