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Sisters Are The Best (And Forever)

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“Sisters are the best!”

Even though this was said to me almost 5 years ago at my 20 week sonogram by my then ultrasound technician for my second child, I can recall it like it was just yesterday.

As I sit recalling this tale, my girls reminded me that they are like Elsa and Anna from their still favorite movie, Frozen who are simply, “Sister Forever”. 

Yup, These Two Are Frozen Obsessed Now and Forever!
Sisters Forever – Just Like Elsa and Anna!!

However back during both my pregnancies,  I swore that when I indeed was pregnant that I was having boys, because I was truly a girly girl and couldn’t be that lucky to get a a girl on the first shot (which I did) and then only a year later be equally as lucky to get have another girl.

Not that I have anything against boys or being the mother to boys, but just have always seemingly had more of a comfort level for girls and raising them.  

Then again, ask me this when they are teenagers and I may have a different answer, but still I just couldn’t believe my ears at my 20 week ultrasound back in July 2010.

Even as my husband and I walked into the sonogram room in my doctor’s office, he swore that day and pretty much up to that point in my then pregnancy that I was having another girl, because for those first 20 weeks of pregnancy was so very similar to that of my first pregnancy right down to having a cold during the same week or pregnancy with my second that I did with my first.

Bizarre, but true!

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Anyway, I walked into that room to have a routine sonogram to check for the normal 20 week ultrasound, which pretty much checks for growth on all the major organ systems.  To find out more about this sonogram and others, click here.

As I the ultrasound tech, checked for all things growth (thankfully my second was perfect and right on track), she got to the part of the ultrasound which was definitely my favorite by far where we could indeed find out what sex out soon-to-be second child would be.

Even though she knew me pretty well having had me on her table only a year before with my first pregnancy, she asked me very succinctly, “Do you want to know the sex?”

Both my husband and I told her that yes we totally did.

As she looked, she began telling me how she had a brother and brothers were a blessing (I thought for sure at this moment I was to find out that I was carrying a boy).  But then, she continued speaking to me sharing that she had a sister too and that she had much closer bond with her sister, by telling me in no uncertain terms, “Sisters are the best! And your little girl is going to be a big sister.  You are having another girl.”

Ultrasound of Lily
Ultrasound of My Second – It’s A Girl

I sat there a bit in shock and tears streaming down my face (got to tell you as I write this I am tearing up recalling this) and allowing myself to take in the fact that I was not only the mother to one little girl, but now to two.

As I celebrated Mother’s Day this past weekend, I couldn’t help recalling this moment as it is still one of my favorite moments as a mother ever.  I am honestly so very thankful to be the mother to two girls, who are hopefully the best sisters forever!

So moms, what are you thankful for?

Sisters Swinging Spring 2015
Sisters Forever!!!

 Signature 2015 *This post was originally published on May 10, 2014 and has been edited being republished here today.
  

 

About Janine

Janine is a published author of the books, The Mother of All Meltdowns and Only Trollops Shave Above the Knee. She has been featured on The Huffington Post, Mamapedia, Today Parenting Team and SheKnows. She also runs her own graphic design company at J9 Designs.

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  2. dianeroark says

    Janine,

    Because of being raised by an alcoholic mom who left us, my brothers and sister and I are not close. They have to much pain from the past. I trusted God when I was 18 to make something beautiful with my life from our childhood mess, but they have not YET. They will one day, so I will keep praying.
    I am so blessed and fortunate that my oldest daughter and my twin boys are closer than peanut butter. In fact, Caleb's (17) nick name is peanut and Carly's (age 22) nick name is butter. Caleb and Casey are thrilled every Friday when Carly comes home. Even though she should be studying for medical school, she takes time to go to Casey's baseball games. He has a Regional playoff game this afternoon. They sit in each other's lap and pick at each other constantly, BUT I love it. It is truly music to my ears. My youngest two age 15 and 11 constantly struggle to understand what LOVE is. They don't want to be touched (for good reasons) and they do not understand after almost 8 years that we are their FOREVER FAMILY. It is so difficult to explain what RAD reactive, attachment disorder is and how is causes both of them to test us constantly to see if we will still love them. I just keep praying they will know one day how much GOD loves them.
    Have a GREAT Mother's Day! You are truly a wonderful mother and friend.

    Blessings,
    Diane Roark
    My recent post BBQ Bacon Ranch Chicken Pasta

    • Janine Huldie says

      Aww, totally praying Diane and can’t even imagine. My heart breaks just reading this and hope soon that they will find their way back. Happy Mother’s Day again back at you!! 🙂

  3. tamaralikecamera says

    Sisters rock. I have two. I was so convinced I'd only be a girl mom. I thought if I had five kids, they would all be girls. I was wrong! Now I swear I want a third because I'm so in love with raising boys and girls and there's be no preference like I had at first. ( I REALLY wanted a girl first.)
    I do want Scarlet to have a sister, though. Although Des. He's just…something else.
    My recent post A Mother’s Day Tell-All.

  5. Rosey says

    My daughter-in-law feels like you do, she so wants to have another girl for her little one to have a sister. My son (her husband) wants a boy. 😉 We'll see how that goes… hahaha. And speaking of my son and his wife, TODAY is my little sweet grandbaby's very first birthday!! 🙂

    A big Happy Mother's Day to you!!

  8. southmainmuse says

    Happy Mother's Day to you Janine. Sister are so special. My sister is three years younger. We were together last weekend. We live about 9 hours apart. Sad, but we try to get together a few times a year. It's always special. A hug to those cute girls.

  9. stephanie2006 says

    You know, when we had Lily (didn't find out the gender until the day she was born) I was almost in shock a little bit as I'd never seen myself as a girls' mom. Now I couldn't imagine anything else but being a mom to these two amazing girls and wouldn't have minded having a third girl (actually, we were a little hoping for it, to be honest). But since it seems to be a boy for us this time, I know that it will be fun as well, assuming that the poor little lad will find himself decked in pink more than once 🙂 Have a very Happy Mother's Day, Janine, and please, please, PLEASE let me know where you've got these t-shirts!!!
    My recent post Week In Review – Ten Things Of Thankful (47)

    • Janine Huldie says

      Trust me I know the feeling well and I know I would have been more then I shock and not sure what to do being the mom to a little boy and god bless that little boy with me as a girly girl mom! Seriously, pink would make some sort appearance here, too. As for the shirts, I got them on Zuilly when they had a huge Frozen sale a few weeks back. I found out before the actual e-mail went out and literally within minutes stuff was sold out. It was crazy. If I see anything in the future, will try to let you know and I would say try to signup for emails from them, too. Happy Mother’s Day 🙂

  11. Christine says

    Happy Mother's Day!
    I tried to give our daughter a sister, but they just kept coming out brothers. :). Not really. I love raising a house full to bursting with boys. I just pray they marry wonderful girls who will become great sisters to my little girl.

  12. babygatesdown says

    Okay – as the mom of the two girls who are Frozen fans, I may have to find that shirt. I grew up with a brother, and we're still close, but I love the idea that my girls have a sister to share "girl stuff" with as they grow up. My sister-in-law has two sisters and I can see the difference and the closeness of that relationship. I'm excited to watch my girls grow and play together more and more as they get older.

    Happy Mother's Day!

    • Janine Huldie says

      Louise, I got the shirts online at Zuilly and you should totally sign up for updates, because I am sure they will do another Frozen day since the sale literally was sold out in minutes. It was truly crazy and just thankful for what I did get. And totally can relate, because I too had only a brother. We are very clos, but I love still seeing my girls closeness and siblings from a bit of a different vantage point. Happy Mother’s Day!!

  14. gigigirl says

    This was so heartwarming Janine. Emma and Lily have a bond forever I'm sure. My sisters (and brothers) were and are very dear to me and the bond stays strong even as we age. Sisters are very special though. Have a very happy Mother's Day….and happy birthday to Kevin. See you Tuesday. Love and xxoo PS – I can never see what I'm supposed to in a sonogram. I believe Lily is there! lol

  15. Michelle Liew says

    J9, a blessed Mother's Day to you. From what you show through your posts, you make one heck of a mum!! Have a wonderful week ahead now!!
    My recent post A Temple of Sanctity

  17. Rea Alducente says

    During the first few times I've read your blog, I actually thought they are twins! They look really really the same and so adorable. So cool that you bought that shirt for them. 🙂

    When I was pregnant, everyone was pretty sure I was carrying a girl because they said my face didn't change at all and I was a radiant pregnant woman. They said that usually if you'll have a boy, your face will change a lil bit (now that's scary, LOL)! So I was kind of convinced I'd have a girl. I only found out on my 36th or 37th week that my baby's a boy! 😀

    • Janine Huldie says

      Everyone does so you aren’t alone on that at all. And I know everyone tells you something different about the way you carry about the sex of the baby. I think I heard them all each time, too 🙂

  24. lisang@expandng.com says

    Happy belated Mother's Day! I love that the technician was trying to fool you :). Awww, tears running down your face. I think I had them too when I found out I was having a girl. I thought I was having another boy the whole time!!!! Sisters are indeed the best. My sister and I couldn't be any closer (though we didn't start out that way as kids, hehe).

    • Janine Huldie says

      Aww, Lisa I seriously was in shock and as I was writing this to share couldn't help but remember that moment perfectly. Funny how we convince ourselves one thing when it is so not. And Happy Mother's Day once again to you!! 🙂

  25. pfchico says

    I just love the personality in their little faces. They look like such joys. It is wonderful that they are so close.I am still pushing for baby #2, but I so wish I had been able to have them close together like you did, even with the challenges.

    • Janine Huldie says

      I will tell you I was shell-shocked when I first found out I was pregnant again. We definitely wanted more, but was planning on waiting until Emma was at least over a year (probably closer to 2 years old). But I guess god had other plans and now I truly couldn't imagine it any other way. 🙂

    • Janine Huldie says

      Karen, I was fine for years as an only child before my mo had my brother six years later and have a feeling (don't ge me wrong I adore my brother) that I would have been ok if she chose not to have any more. So, I think Anthony will be fun, too 🙂

  27. spiritedlife says

    I'm very excited to see my girls grow together. Right now, Bee is overly affectionate with Butterfly, and Butterfly doesn't understand it yet, but I hope to see the relationship flourish! Thanks for sharing with Countdown in Style! And Happy Belated Mother's Day!
    My recent post The Perfect Summer Evening while Blowing Your Socks Off!

    • Janine Huldie says

      Thanks April and I know I love seeing my girls together and you are right the bond was there from the beginning, but definitely even more exciting to see it as the grow together, too. And Happy belated Mother's Day right back at you!! 🙂

  28. JoAnn says

    Awww, there is nothing like the bond between sisters. My sister and I are 7 years apart. Sometimes we go without speaking for a while, but we always come back to each other 🙂

  35. Seana Turner says

    I had pretty much the same situation and emotions. I am one of two girls, my sister has 2 girls, and I got two girls. Even my Mom is one of two girls, and my Dad had 2 sisters… you have to marry in to be a guy in our family:) I remember a children’s book called “Spider Sisters” that I used to read to my girls. I feel very lucky to have a sister for sure!

  37. Bev says

    My sister is one of my best friend’s! I’m thankful that she is such a wonderful aunt to Eve, and that Eve has four very loving and caring and extraordinarily helpful grandparents 🙂

    Hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day, Janine!

  41. Allie says

    Ah, I loved this. I always wished I had a sister, and after I had Audrey, I wanted a little sister for her. Alas, it was not meant to be. She got three brothers instead! It still hurts, though, when she asks me for a sister.

  42. Bill says

    Those two are going to b e close for about seven decades, and it’s all because of you and your husband. Watch with pride!

    Happy Monday, Janine.

  44. Echo says

    Sisters are great, but yes, having a daughter makes me fear the teen years even more! I am thankful for my kids. I have one of each and my daughter gets to have a big brother, like I did!

  45. Yanique Chambers says

    I have two sons and a daughter and I feel bad that my daughter won’t get to experience having a sister. My sister and I are 10 years apart but we’ve always been close despite the age difference. There is just something about a sister bond that can’t be replicated with anyone else.

    • Janine says

      I can tell you this I didn’t have a sister as much as I did want one as a kid, but now I truly wouldn’t trade my own brother in though, but from what I see with my girls sisters are indeed special too 😉

  46. Jen says

    Oh, this is lovely! Finding out what sex our babies are is so special. I remember each time so clearly. Your girls are absolutely adorable! I love my 3 girls and my 1 boy. It’s funny, but so far the teen years have not been so bad, but we are in the very early years, so….. we will see 🙂 Happy belated Mother’s day and thank you for sharing another beautiful post!

  47. Kenya G. Johnson says

    So sweet. I know mother’s for the most part say they have no preference except for a healthy baby. But in my heart I knew I was a boy mom and to be a girl mom was going to be a big adjustment on my part especially if she was a girly girl. But I also know I would have had no problems in girling her up because my mother in law and sister in law would have had that covered. It was very disappointing to me that when I said I was having a boy they both said, “Oh.” They couldn’t even hide there disappointment. They got over it though. I guess because I was the big sister of a brother that is who I could relate to. I know you had a baby brother too though so maybe it’s not that connection. Who knows. 😉 It’s adorable that your girls are so close. You’re going to be in trouble. LOL!

    • Janine says

      Kenya, I love that you got what you wanted, too and that is all that matters in the end. And I know these two are so going to be trouble though and probably provide me with plenty to write about though!! 😉

  48. Rosey says

    They are awesome together too, you can just tell from their pictures. 🙂 My DIL grew up very close to her sister and she wants to have a girl when she and my son have baby #2 (which she’d love to do right now, but my son wants to wait, lol…we’ll see who wins that one 😉 ). 🙂

  49. karen says

    my sister now lives in TX with her hubby and I miss her so much, I really wish she was still living in NY. I took for granted that she would always be here.

    LOVE LOVE LOVE that picture! They are so lucky to have each other! What a gift!

    • Janine says

      Karen, I am lucky that my brother lives so close, but if and when he does move, I am going to be lost without him. And I do agree though and hope my kids feel the same way though as they do grow up now 😉

    • Janine says

      Mary, I love that you did bring a completely different perspective to reading my article and think from all I have seen so far, you are doing a great job as a girl mama, too though 😉

  52. Susanne Lewis Kerns says

    So sweet. My daughter predicted that my son was going to be a boy all along. I hope that means that’s what she wanted, because that’s what she got. 😉

  55. Rabia @TheLiebers says

    I have total sister jealousy! I thought my third pregnancy was going to be a girl, and I’ll be honest, I was disappointed for a brief moment when Benjamin was born. I don’t have sisters, or get to be one, but brothers are pretty cool too!

  56. Rea says

    So very sweet Janine!! I’m sure the girls will be sisters forever!
    I know I was sooo excited before to find out whether I was having a boy or girl. Unlike you, I actually swore that I was having a girl because of the common beliefs we have here that if there are no changes with the way you look during pregnancy, you’ll most certainly have a girl. When I was pregnant, the only physical change that happened to me was with my tummy, the rest were the same. So I was a bit shocked when the doctor told me we’re having a boy. I love him more and more each day!

    • Janine says

      Aw, Rea, Reiko is hard not to love!! But I know what you mean both times I got told boys by the way I was originally carrying and the old wives tales here, too. So I guess they really are just that and old tales 😉

  57. Tamara says

    Since my family of origin has me as one of two sisters, I totally thought the same when I got pregnant again! Nope! My charming, mud-loving Des.
    Scarlet asks me to make her a sister all the time, though!

  60. April G says

    I’m watching this relationship develop between my two girls. I am not really close to eithe rof my sblings so I love that all three of my kids are close, including my two girls.

  61. Carrie Groneman says

    Really fun post Janine. I have 3 boys and 2 girls. They are each very unique, all strong willed and individual personality. Growing up they fought with and for each other. Now as adults I joy in nothing more than when they are together because they laugh, tease and complete the whole package. I truly am blessed, though I didn’t think I’d live through them most of the time. My in-law kids are just as dear and loved also. Happy be-lated Mother’s Day. Carrie, A Mother’s Shadow

  62. Dana says

    I was bummed that my daughter wouldn’t have a sister like I do, but she and her brother have a great relationship. They each have a close cousin the same gender, and I hope those relationships continue into adulthood. Now I couldn’t imagine anything other than having one of each!

  64. Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom says

    In both of my pregnancies I thought I was carrying boys. We didn’t know until they were born… both times – girls. I was so certain with my second that she HAD to be a boy because the pregnancy was so different!

    I grew up an only child and my brother was born 18 years and 6 days after me. The fact that my girls have each other… a sibling is awesome. However, the fact that they’re sisters… well, I count myself blessed.

    I love the photos of your girls. If only we lived closer. I’m certain our girls would have a blast together!

    Wishing you a lovely evening.
    xoxo

  65. Lindsay Klein says

    So beautiful, and so true! My bond with my sisters can’t be put into words, they are a part of my soul! I don’t plan to find out one day prior to birth…but if it comes out a girl, I too will selfishly be hapy:) Happy belated mom’s day love! xo

  69. Alexa says

    I’m thankful for so much… despite my crazy kids and their antics, at least they are healthy! I am happy that my girls have a sister, because I grew up with 3 sisters, and I can’t imagine life without a sister!

  70. Leslie says

    This is just so sweet! What a precious moment that must have been. The Husband and I were originally pretty convinced that we’d have to have three kids just to have a girl, but then we ended up with one girl right after another, too. Love that your girls refer to themselves as being like Elsa and Anna. Hopefully they keep that attitude as they get older!

  71. Nina says

    I actually have all boys and love it! Though to be honest I wouldn’t have minded if one of my twins had been a girl, so that I could have both boys and a girl. But I was never comfortable with raising all girls. Funny how we all have our preferences! Still, I think there’s something cool about same-gendered siblings. I can already see it with my boys: they are truly best friends and I imagine they’ll be that way well into adulthood. I’m sure your girls will too! And it was so sweet to read about your emotions finding out the genders 🙂

  73. The Pinterested Parent says

    This is so sweet Janine. It breaks my heart that we were never able to give Mai a sibling. She has many friends that she refers to as brothers or sisters & it stabs me just a bit each time she says it. Your girls are indeed fortunate to have each other. My sister & I have 11 years separating us and still she is one of my best friends. When our mother passed, I was so grateful to have her in my life. Sisters are the best for sure. Hugs to your two sweet girls.

    • Janine says

      Aw, Kim I think Mai is perfect just the way she is and ironically enough I was almost an only child as my brother didn’t come along for almost 6 years and I was just fine for the years as far as I can tell. Hugs right back at you!!!

  76. Camille says

    Aww, I’m so thankful for my girls too!! Although compared with how I got along with my brothers growing up, I have to say there is a bit more shrieking and drama with sisters, lol!

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