“You need to talk more and make new friends in kindergarten.”
I was driving home recently with my girls, I heard the above heartfelt and declarative statement from my older daughter, who is now in first grade giving to her younger sister now in kindergarten this current school year.
The significance of this bold and monumental, sibling advice didn’t elude me. I admit, I may have been pretending I wasn’t listening while keeping my eyes on the road for my girls sake, but secretly I confess that I tuned my ears in more than these two ever could have imagined to have a literal front and up close seat to the sisterly exchange.
To give a quick background to the reader, my now 1st grade daughter was only a shy and introverted kindergartner a year ago, but a lot has changed in only a year’s time.
If anyone was qualified to shed some light on what my youngest would and should do during her first year in elementary school, it would indeed be the now first grader, who literally just completed this very same stage of her own young life only one year previous.
As much as I have been trying to advise my baby on what to expect in kindergarten in recent times, I am probably not as qualified on this even after parenting her sister through the last year.
For starters, kindergarten is nothing like it was when I attended almost 30 years ago as she will now learn how to read, write and perform simple addition and subtraction for 6 plus hours day.
It is also the first time that she has been away from me for an extended period of time for days on an end. Still yet, this is a time where she will have to give more trust and herself to another adult figure other then me — her teacher.
Yet, all these uncharted challenges, set aside, our most recent once kindergarten student had noticed that her baby sister was uncharacteristically quiet when meeting up with some of her classmates.
So, she took this opportunity to dispense from her own recent experiences from only the year before not only that her sister should be more willing to make new friends, but why she should as I continued to listen to the sisterly conversation play out.
According to big sister, above all the lessons that could indeed be learned from her first full-time school experience, being open to new friendships was on the top of the list, because in her exact words she added, “School can be a lonely place without your friends” to say the least.
Maybe I am a bit biased.
After all, I am the mom to both of these amazing young girls, who are only separated by 16 months, but still I can’t help but see all the beauty and love in the above words of wisdom from my former kindergartener to her younger, now kindergarten sister that was given straight from her heart and with so much love, too.
See as much as these two sisters love one another and are mostly the best of friends after school hours, weekends and holidays, still truth be told I do agree with my older daughter’s observations that they do need their own friends in their own respective grades.
So, for the 6 year old to verbalize to this her kid sister was truly amazing and heartwarming to me. The almost 5 year old, nodded and listened and I am hopeful now that she will remember her sister’s words for the year ahead.
If all else fails though, there was nothing more beautiful in my eyes and ears than the affection and tenderness that these two sisters shared during this chat. Hopeful that they will always be this close for years to come.
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Such sagely advice from one sister to another! The girls are so lucky to have each other 🙂
Aw, thanks Bev and I agree they really are just so lucky to have each other! 😉
little children often have more wisdom than we give them credit for! It’s lovely that she cares enough about her little sister to try and offer helpful advice (also a sign of great parenting!)
Leanne, you are so right and both my girls do have more wisdom than I could ever give them credit for. And thank you always for your kind words here, too 🙂
Seana Turner says
I’m thankful for my sister. We have always been close, but when we were growing up, we were sometimes in different phases of life (4 years apart.) Now our phases are very similar, which has only brought us closer.
Aw, so happy you and your sister are so close now. Like you though can understand the years being an issue, as my brother is 6 years younger than me and growing up it was a bit of a challenge at times, but now we couldn’t be closer if we tried, too 😉
My sister is my rock in this world, and I think there is nothing more special than the love sisters have for each other! Love that you get this!
Aw, love that you get this, too and sounds like you and your sister have an amazing relationship. Gives me so much hope for the future with my own girls, too 😉
Chris Carter says
Oh Janine!!! Those two just are so so precious together!! This sisterhood bond will continue on for the rest of their lives… and oh how perfect that advice was- and given with such insight from her own Kindergarten experience! You are SO blessed with these two beautiful girls!!
Thank you always Chris and I am so hopeful that this bond and relationship will indeed continue on for them for years to come now 😉
That is so sweet. I love when I hear my kids offering advice to each other!
Aw, thanks Dara and I know I love hearing my girls help each other, too 😉
I think it is so cool that those two are growing up so close in age. I predict they are going to be very close, loving sisters their entire lives….that is so very special. 🙂
Have a super Wednesday, Janine!
Aw, thank you Bill and hoping you are right on this. Happy Wednesday once again, my dear friend!!! 😉
Meredith Spidel says
This post and your girls and their friendship…all touches my heart so much. xo
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Aw, love that it does and seriously am so happy that we could share this one, as well!! Hugs and love xoxo <3
Oh Janine, this is too sweet! Sisters are so important. I know they fight, but as they grow up you know they will have eachother’s back. Thanks for sharing this precious glimpse into your family!
My pleasure and couldn’t agree more. Thank you too once again, Jen!! 😉
Rabia @TheLiebers says
Those moments when the kids think you aren’t paying attention, and they are actually nice to one another are just pure magic!
They really are, Rabia!!! And couldn’t agree more 😉
Your girls are awesome and it is so great they have each other as sisters 🙂
Aw,thanks Julie and yes I totally do agree 😉
Lisa @ The Golden Spoons says
So sweet! My youngest two, now 8 & 11 next week, are best buds. Last night, Megan was helping Emily with her math homework. The oldest two – well, they are like oil and water and , sometimes, I wonder if they will ever really be friends! 🙂
Aw, Lisa, I hope all your girls will be best of friends as they get older now and got my fingers crossed completely 😉
Aw Janine, I just love that. There’s nothing cuter when a sibling gives heartfelt advice to another. My boys do the same thing even now, but sometimes it’s in the reverse with the younger giving the older advice! Cracks me up!
Aw, man I long to here this in reverse now and can only imagine what kind of advice my sassy younger daughter could give LOL! 😉
catherine gacad says
there’s no doubt that sisters have the closest bond! i know that from my very cursory assessment of siblings and their relationships!
Aw, I know and as close as I am with my brother definitely love seeing the sisterly closeness with my girls though 😉
Mama G says
Beautiful post Janine, so lovely to see that they’re friends as well as sisters. I wish mine got on well, the only time there isn’t arguing and my house is silent is when they’re in three different rooms!
Aw, I am fearful of that in the teen years, but thankfully right now they get along for the most part 😉
Chrissy Petti- Volpe says
I meant to write a comment under your post but shared it by mistake. Beautiful thoughts of your girls. Wanted you to know how much this post meant!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Aw, Chrissy, I love that you could relate with your girls, too and am heading over to check out your comment on your wall now, too!! 😉
Kathryn Leehane says
What a beautiful relationship!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Aw, thank you so much Kathryn!!! <3
What a lovely story. There is nothing more satisfying than to hear of siblings that are close and love one another. Your girls are special young ladies.
Thank you so much Marilyn!! 😉
Diane Roark says
This made my day! The words of such a wise little girl broke my heart. I too was thinking they know what friendship is all about and will definitely be besties forever!!!
Thank you so much for sharing this sweet story.
So happy I could share and I admit this one still tears at my heartstrings, too here. Thanks so much always, Diane 😉
Diane Hill Roark says
I loved this post! Your girls are recognizing at such a young age the value of friendship and sisters forever. They are beautiful on the outside and inside. Your doing a great job Janine Huldie
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Aw thank you again so much Diane and truly appreciate all your kind words here ❤️
That is.. so cute. Every now and then Scarlet will offer guidance and patience to Des (rather than screaming) and she has this particular “teacher voice” she uses just for him. It’s hilarious and lovely.
Aw, that sounds adorable and am smiling just thinking about it 😉
What a sweet post! Your girls are lucky to have each other! I’m 32 and my sister is 25 and she still doesn’t listen to my advice when I try to make things easier for her LOL
Aw, Becca I would say enough still you and your sister are still lucky to have each other 😉
Aunt Gloria says
This almost brought tears to my eyes! How very sweet and wonderful to hear the relationship between the girls. And how astute and sensitive of Emma to offer such sage advice…..I am truly impressed. I always knew they were special, but this proves it! You and Kevin are special too…..Love you…..xxoo
Aw, thanks Aunt Gloria and truly can’t say that enough. Love you too xoxo
Carrie Groneman says
That is so sweet and takes me back to when my girls were young. However, they still teach and help each other. Fabulous post Janine, I love it as I always do. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Carrie
Aw, thank you Carrie and truly my pleasure always 😉
Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
Your girls are so cute – and they are so lucky to have each other.
Thanks Robin and I can help, but agree 😉
Michelle | A Dish of Daily Life says
That is so sweet! I love how wonderful their relationship is! 🙂
Aw, thanks Michelle and I know their relationship is truly so fulfilling to watch most times here for me 😉
What a fantastic big sister! And that the oldest would be worried that her sister would have the same problems she did, such sweet compassion.
Thanks Leslie and truly couldn’t agree more 😉
Awwww….what sweethearts! Totally great job mom teaching kindness, love and compassion!
Aw, thanks so much Kristen!!! 🙂
Kristi Campbell says
Aw, Janine! That’s utterly adorable! I love that Emma’s looking out for her baby sister and giving her good advice to surviving kindergarten and school. So so sweet! <3
Thanks Kristi and I can’t help but smile still thinking about her advice now, too 😉
Katie | The Surly Housewife says
Sisterly love is the best. Although mind seem to fight more often than not, I try to focus on the times they are being loving to one another 🙂
Katie, we have our good and bad moments here, too. Thankfully, the good seem to outweigh the bad for the most part.
Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom says
Aww, this was so lovely!
When I was pregnant with my second, I was hoping for a boy. I wanted a son and daughter. However, we got a girl and I couldn’t be happier. There is something special about sisters. Their love, Their bond. It’s unbeatable. I always wanted a sister. I ended up getting a brother when I was 18 years old (and no longer living at home).
My girls fight like crazy but they love each other more than anything… so it’s all good.
Yay for sisters!
Thanks for sharing this sweet reflection.
Aw, Jennifer my pleasure and definitely agree that there is just something about sisters!! xoxo 😉
Kenya G. Johnson says
How sweet. I think if they are that close now, they always will be. I love that you heard that little exchange from the backseat. I know it warmed your heart.
It’s so wonderful to see when siblings are friends. Christopher has some twins on his basketball time and they obviously do not like each other. They also played with him at football. My husband and I did the football pictures and when it was their turn they did not want to take a picture together. I’ve never seen anything like that with twins. I was shocked. I guess it’s a myth that twins are BFFs.
I guess it is a twins fallacy indeed, but most twins I knew did get along. However, I knew one set in high school that truly were not fans of each other and that is what you reminded me of this morning with your comment.
Such a beautiful story, but even more important is that your girls are intuitive and thoughtful. I wonder if they will remember this when they are older. I have a younger sister and don’t remember any lessons I might have taught her…more so the things I “made her do.”
Aw, hope they will remember even some of this time, but truly can’t say for sure though sadly.