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Sisters: War and Peace…

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“Sister. She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. Some days, she’s the reason you wish you were an only child.”
― Barbara Alpert

Having been an avid reader for many years, I have come upon my fair share of stories about sisters and they way they act with each other. So, the quote above is a valid reflection of sisters, who on a good day with my own girls seems more to me like a good dose of “War and Peace”.

I, myself, was an only child until almost six years old and then my mom had my brother. Growing up, my brother was fairly easy going and since I was so much older, he looked up to me. I heard often from my mother, “You are the older sister and you have to watch out for him.” As a young girl, because there were so many years difference, we didn’t have a lot in common. However, as we did get older, the age gap closed up quite a bit. Now at 35 years old and 29 years old, we truly are the best of friends.

That said, I can’t always relate to the relationship my girls have, because on one hand they are sisters and I truly didn’t have a sister and on the other, they are only 16 months apart (much closer age difference than my brother and I).

Friendship Day Jewelry from Emma’s Pre-School

So take for instance, today’s latest and greatest from my girls. Emma had Friendship Day at pre-school. Apparently, they made necklaces to wear to promote peace (trust me the irony on this and how not peaceful my house can be did not allude me here) and also made bracelets to give to one classmate friend. So, Emma made a bracelet for one little girl in her class and the same little girl made Emma a bracelet in return.

When I went to pick her up, we were half down the hall leaving, when she begin to panic and realized she had forgotten her bracelet. Off we went and turned back around to go down the hall to her class. We retrieved her bracelet from her teacher and then we were finally cleared to go home. On the car ride home, she clutched this bracelet like it was gold now that she had it back again.

At home, Lily was still napping while my mom was keeping an ear out for her. When she woke up, Emma immediately took her necklace and bracelet off and put them on Lily. Lily immediately told me, “Emma gave me this necklace and bracelet. I love her.”

It was so adorable, was so happy to see the two of the sharing and getting along. and I was slightly shocked how easily Emma parted with both of these prized possessions.

About five minutes later, all hell broke lose and you could her Lily screaming, “It is mine, no!!”  Those fighting words and it was war now.

I went to check to see what the problem was. Apparently, the necklace and bracelet were on loan and Emma was ready to collect. She wanted them back and Lily, of course, didn’t want to give them back.

Sisters–They Do Love Each Other So!!

No worries, it did get straightened out pretty quickly and peace prevailed. Both girls were onto bigger and better with Mickey, Minnie and Donald stuffed animals. And all was forgiven and forgotten within minutes.

A side note though, the screaming is nothing new around here and even the way they acted with each other isn’t either by any means. However, it always seems to amaze me, since as I said earlier I didn’t have a sister and my brother was over 6 years younger then me, how as sisters they can totally love each to pieces one minute, the next be mortal enemies and still the next be best buddies yet again.

But from all accounts, that is just because quite simply they are sisters and this is how sisters act with one another.

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About Janine

Janine is a published author of the books, The Mother of All Meltdowns and Only Trollops Shave Above the Knee. She has been featured on The Huffington Post, Mamapedia, Today Parenting Team and SheKnows. She also runs her own graphic design company at J9 Designs.

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  1. Meredith says

    Your girls are so cute, Janine! Even when the screaming doesn't make it feel that way 😉 My sister is my best friend, and it makes me sad that my daughter won't have that special relationship with a sister 🙁

  2. Jane Marsh says

    They're essentially "twiblings," your girls–so close in age. Tough now, but what a blessing to each other when they are older. Two of my dh's step-sisters about a year and change apart, and while they've gone through their periods of friction, they are absolute best friends as adults. Sisterless myself, I envy them that. And have you seen http://bestof2sisters.com/ blog? Two sisters, blogging together about their life… that will be your girls in the future. 🙂

    • Janine Huldie says

      That sounds so interesting that blog and need to check it out. Thanks for sharing it here, because I truly never heard of it. I also wanted to have a sister and can relate to what you feel sometimes, too. Don't get me wrong, I love my brother so much, but I always wondered especially when I was younger.

  3. mrs_karenC says

    I was an only child until I was six when my sister was born. My son will be an only, sometimes I wish he had a sibling…but know he loves allt he attention he gets.

    I was horrible to my sister when I was younger, not I love her dearly.

  4. Melanie Chisnall says

    That is so sweet! 🙂 I remember when my brother made me a card quite a few years ago that said, "to the best sister in the world". I kept that card for a couple of years. It meant to the world to me. We were close growing up, drifted apart during teen years and early adult years, and now we're not shy to tell each other how we feel. It's important. I'm so glad you get to see that love with your two girls. It's very special.

    • Janine Huldie says

      Oh thanks for sharing Melanie. I am truly lucky, because my own brother is a wonderful guy and not only to me,but to my girls and Kevin, too. He would do anything for us and the same for him in return. I am truly glad though to see my girls for the most part so very good to each other and really does make all the craziness worth while 🙂

  7. Janine Huldie says

    Oh thanks so much Richard. Like I said I was almost an only child for 6 years. So sometimes I can't always relate to their adventures, but Kevin can more because he and his sister were only 14 months apart. That said I do try my best though 🙂

  10. Janine Huldie says

    Heather, even though I didn't have a sister, I am quickly learning and getting a crash course from my two. Loved sharing this one, because I couldn't help, but think the whole thing was quite entertaining when all said and done. My girls do have a way of doing that even whether being cute or beastly ((I guess I am just prejudice where this is concerned!!).

  11. Emily says

    I too grew up with just one brother — he was 2 1/2 years older and though we fought as kids, we became very close during our high school years and have continued to be. Although I wouldn't trade my brother for anything, I always wondered what it would have been like to have a sister, and maybe that's why I cherish my girlfriends so much as they are my surrogate sisters. Despite the fights that Lily and Emma have now, you can bet they are going to be very close and the best of friends. It may be more War than Peace on some days, but over time, I'm sure you'll get a lot more Peace…:)

    • Janine Huldie says

      Thanks Emily and as much as I can't relate just like you having had a younger brother, I try very hard to understand their relationship. I even find it somewhat intriguing, too since I didn't have this experience at all.

  14. Dani Ryan says

    That is so cute!!! My sister and I are also 6 years apart. It definitely makes it different when you grow up with an older sibling. I hope your 2 are the best of friends when they are older!

    • Janine Huldie says

      Thanks Dani and even though he was my brother (mine is also 6 years younger than me), so I can totally relate to that age difference you refer to. And I hope you are right that they are the best of friends as the grow up 🙂

  15. Michelle Liew says

    There will always be sibling rivalry, Janine. But that's how it is, and in the end, the family connection wins it! Thanks for sharing this…and btw, the age gap between you and your bro is the same as me and mine!

  17. Linda Jones says

    I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers, Janine, and our house was rarely quiet or peaceful either. We definitely had our share of arguments but now that we're all grown up there are no better friends than sisters and brothers. I also have 2 wonderful sisters-in-law.

    • Janine Huldie says

      Thanks for sharing Linda and your house growing up sounds similar to my what my grandmother used to tell me of her house, because she too was one of six. So, it was never quiet in their house and that is what you made me think of when I read your comment. I have to say though with two though it is still quite loud and crazy around here, too. But then again it is never dull! 🙂

  18. crystal says

    That's so cute. My boys are four years apart, but they are joined at the hips. They are home schooled and I honestly think that makes them a lot of closer. Plus they are also equally as close to their sister as well who is four years younger than my middle son.
    They fight over toys all the time!! It is an constant issue in our home. Funny, that I don't remember doing that with my brother growing up. 😉

    • Janine Huldie says

      Thanks so much Crystal for sharing that here and will say I too don't remember being quite this way with my own brother growing up, but I attributed it to the age difference, but your kids are rebutting that one on me. Loved hearing about your three though and thank you again 🙂

  20. Camilleta says

    Hahah, such a cute story. My brother and I were like this. Fighting one second and the best of friends the next. Can't wait to see it with my two as they get older… I'm sure some days I'll want to rip my hair out!

    • Janine Huldie says

      Camille, I think you will most likely see similar between your girls, because the age difference isn't all the much more. And I am sure you will have moments where you love seeing them interact and others where you will want to blow your brains out, because I go back and forth on these emotions pretty much daily, lol!! 🙂

  22. Stephanie Sprenger says

    Oh no! I bet the moment was beautiful…while it lasted! I too am the older sister of a brother, so I am thrilled that my girls get to grow up with sisters, but I am not really sure what I am in for, as I can't relate. I loved this story!

  25. Rachel Harper says

    I think your daughters are lucky. I always wanted a sister, and even though they fight at times like sisters do, they'll always have each other, and they're even more lucky to have you as a mom.

    • Janine Huldie says

      Thank you so very much Rachael and I love that quote, too. Happy to follow you back and am following on twitter and Facebook, too. Hope you can add me back if you haven't when you get a chance. Also read and commented on you latest post 🙂 🙂

  27. Stacy Harris says

    Yeah… I am so excited to have won! I never win anything! Woot woot!!!!

    Ok – now that I am done celebrating, I have to say, I grew up being the youngest. My oldest sister picked on me. When I was 10, out popped my little sister and then another. In a blink of an eye, I went from being a baby to middle child. However, now that we are much older, it is amazing how these relationships changed. I spent a lot of time babysitting my younger sisters so I felt close to them. My older sister and I, didn't get along at all. However, the older I get, the more I see how important it is to make your sisters your best friends. They will always be there for you! I only wished I lived closer!

    • Janine Huldie says

      Stacy, I am so happy you won and can say this I loved learning that you are one a few sisters and your relationships with your younger sisters versus your older sister. I do agree though that they are important to you and even though you may have a bit of a distance between you geographically, you are still sisters at the core of it all!! 🙂

  28. Janine Huldie says

    Oh thanks Lanaya and for some reason your comments kept hitting spam filters on DISQUS. Still not sure why and am trying to look into this now. I have whitelisted you. So I am hoping this takes care of the problem. I just went through and saw all these comments that never reached me. So sorry that I never responded and would never ignore your comments.

  29. Janine Huldie says

    Thank you so very much and for some reason you and Lanaya are getting put into my spam comments. I am so sorry for any comments you previously made and did not get responded too. I would never ignore a comment from you and feel terrible right now. I am looking into this and also am now checking that spam folder daily to make sure I am not missing something for some reason. Thanks again and so sorry for this confusion.

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