I have a confession to make here today. And yes I know confessions is what my whole site is about (hell it is in the title!), but here is the thing my husband and I argue from time to time.
And yes we do love each other very much, but sometimes we don’t see eye-to-eye on things and fight. It happens and it is just a fact of life.
Anyone that tells you they are married and never argue with their spouse is either lying to you or deluding themselves.
Take, for instance, the day I posted my Old School Marriage Blogging Style, we were actually in the middle of a very fine argument. The post was pre-scheduled and I ran with it, in case you were wondering.
But in any event the post was mushy and sappy. Yet, the night before we got into a fight and I was feeling anything but those above sentiments when the post went live.
How the fight started, I don’t even remember, but do recall it was over money or the lack thereof.
Another confession, we both have three master’s degrees between us and on paper should be making well over six figure salaries combined, but in reality not so much.
When, I completed my master’s degree, I was told I should be able to find a teaching position teaching math with very little difficulty. Again, not so!
So, here I am 7 years after I graduated with my masters in education and not a teaching position available to go around.
I could be a substitute teacher if I so chose and yet would barely make enough to put my kids in daycare. But why should I do that, when someone else would raise my kids for 8 hours a day and I would not have much if anything to even put in savings after paying for said daycare.
Kevin and I have gone over these numbers so many times and keep coming back to that same decision, but it does frustrate him when he sees many others getting houses, who also can’t truly afford or have outside help to afford.
So, yes we do argue. Sometimes over small minutia that honestly just amounts to two people living together who sometimes have their bad habits irk each other. Hey, that is bound to happen. Just a fact of life.
But every once in awhile the argument is about more substantial frustrations like above with money concerns. Don’t get me wrong, we do save as much as we can, but still making monthly payments on a mortgage, taxes and so much more for a house just would not be able to be afforded right now with only one salary.
And as much as I love writing and specifically blogging, it does take a life of its own and does not afford a ton of money for the time I do put into it. Simply put, my income definitely is lacking at this point.
Yet, I built this blog pretty much from the ground up. It was almost like being pregnant again and giving birth. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying my blog is my third child, but I did seriously give me all in creating and building it.
I not only created my own personal header and button, but pretty much designed the background, color scheme, widget layout, advertising, sponsored posts, social media networks and so much more. And I am continually tweaking things on it.
By the way, I busted my butt to get where I am at is my point. I learned design and coding pretty much from the ground up in the process. Kevin went to school for this and does this kind of stuff for a living. I did it here for myself and in the end learned so much of it from trial and error and definitely not in a classroom setting.
So back to the argument at hand (so to speak). When the topic of money came crashing back down on us, Kevin reminded me yet again that I do know my stuff on blog designing and am truly on my game with this.
About a week prior to said argument, I had mentioned in passing that I was toying with this exact notion. But then I got cold feet questioning my ability, because I am truly my own worst critic.
I threw it on the back-burner. Kevin, even in the middle of an argument, had my back. He told me straight on that I do have what it takes and he believes in me. Also, he sat down once we both had a cooling off period and made me list all I do know and have done for my very own blog with little or no help from anyone else.
Here is what I came up with:
- WordPress (Coding/Design/Maintenance)
- Backgrounds (C/M)
- Custom Headers (C/D)
- Custom Menu (CSS/Fonts)
- Button Creations
- Commenting Systems (DISQUS, Comment Luv)
- Social Network Integration (Help)
This is just the tip of the iceberg. And what I don’t always know 100%, I always look up and usually can figure out anyways. I am resourceful, I guess if nothing else.
So bottom line, it looks like I am going to be starting a nice exciting adventure and figure I have nothing to lose and just so much to gain.
Where I am going with this? I am in the process of starting a new site, which offers my blog design and help services for fair, but going rate. The past two weeks, I worked my butt off getting the site just the way I wanted it before I made this big grand announcement. So here comes my huge announcement.
I am now running two websites, this blog that all already know and follow me. But also a second one for web design needs. So if anyone is in need of any blog services or knows anyone who is, please feel free to ask or hit me up in the comments here. And also feel free to check out my new web design company, J9 Designs here.My Newest Venture–J9 Designs!!
Also, as far as arguments can go this one truly was a whopper, but ending up making a happy meal out of it!!
I must say that everything does happen for a reason. And as much as I hate arguing with Kevin, sometimes it is a necessary evil for us to get our frustrations out on the table and to move forward in our relationship and life in general.
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