“Oh no. He doesn’t care about anyone, but himself.” – My almost 6 year after this past election about Donald Trump.
First things first. I make it a policy to never discuss a few different things in general.
One of them is politics.
See I truly have believed that no good can come from that.
Even in my own home, I rarely would speak about this topic at length, especially in front of my young kids.
Because they are still merely children. Therefore, I believed they shouldn’t have to carry the burden or worry at such a young age.
When they are a bit older though, I liked to think I will be able to discuss my beliefs with them openly and honestly.
Although even when they are older, I know it will hurt me to see them upset or worrying. So, I felt I might still tread lightly.
Still don’t get me wrong, I have my beliefs. They are mine and mine only. But I would never try to force those upon anyone else though nor do I believe that what I feel politically should be felt by the next person.
See to me this is a personal, private decision that should not be made by someone else or influenced by others.
For weeks and even months, I saw all the Facebook posts from friends and family discussing their own political beliefs, as well as who they were in support of.
But again, I never once posted my own political feelings on social media. Nor did I even discuss it with anyone at length, especially once again my kids. I also didn’t tell anyone who I would vote for. That to me is once again a personal and private decision.
Also, I truly am not confrontational nor did I want to argue with anyone over this.
So I was surprised when I casually mentioned the election results the morning following, that my youngest voiced her above concerns.
By the way, my intentions weren’t to upset either of my kids that morning. But rather to inform them, because I began to have a feeling they would get an earful at school that day.
Again, I am not naive in my thinking, especially with politics.
But this political election wasn’t your normal average election. Still, I kept my innermost feelings to myself for better or worse.
I think no matter what side you were on could at least agree with me on that.
Then again, this is probably the most you could agree on.
Because with this most recent election sadly came so much dissension, so much hate, anger and much more negative emotions from both sides.
Also, I wish I could say that I could agree to disagree with the opposing side myself and be the bigger person. But in all honesty, even I am having trouble now with just that even days later. Honestly and humbly confessing that here.
Especially upon hearing my younger daughter dearly express why she was in opposition of our now president elect.
Apparently, she did know more than I originally had thought or even shared with her.
That being said, when she uttered her feelings to me, I was upset for her.
Rightfully so, because she isn’t even 6 years old. So, for her to be scared or worrying made my mom heart ache and my head hurt.
But at almost 40 years old, I very much did have my quiet worries and concerns. Hell, I stayed up into the wee hours of that past night watching as the results came in for this very reason.
So by the time my kids were getting up that next morning, I was physically and mentally exhausted.
Yet, I put my big girl pants on and we talked about the results even though I had trouble putting some of my own feelings into proper words.
I just hope and pray our conversation made even a small difference for them. Because even at almost 40, I still am not sure what to feel or think after the dust is settling now.
But the honest, emotional, and mostly age-appropriate conversation, that ensued after my younger daughter’s admission, made me realize something.
That even though politics shouldn’t be shared casually or thoughtlessly, they should be discussed with those closest to us as rationally as possible. Again, I did just that with both my girls.
And even today, I finally had a very open, civilized and mature conversation with a group of friends, who each voted for one or the other candidate.
By the way publicly, I had my reasons for who I supported. I also didn’t make this decision lightly. Even though I didn’t discuss them at length, I most certainly followed this election. I read up on all the issues knowing where each candidate stood on them. I educated myself to be best equipped before coming to my final decision.
So, for my girls, as well as my decision to converse with these ladies being able to agree to disagree, I am going to be vocal in my own space.
Therefore, I think this simple hashtag will speak for itself: #iamstillwithher
In closing, I am not asking you to agree with my political choice nor I am opening a debate here today. Because again, I have a right to my feelings and so do you. Therefore I would hope that we could agree to disagree, if this is the case.
*This was written expressly for Finding Ninee’s Finish the Sentence Friday (FTSF). The sentence to complete was: “When it comes to the unexpected or to change…”