Valentine’s Day is also in the air, as are all things romance are looming large the closer we get to it.
So there is really isn’t any reason to let these freezing winter days and the daily grind get you down or allow your relationship to go through the deep freeze.
I admit though that I am definitely not a fan of the dark dreary month of January or the winter months, but I still I try not to let this time of the year bring me down after the holiday season and festivities have come to a screeching halt now.
Still as much as the daily demands and stressors of married life with kids can indeed make it difficult to keep the spark in our relationship alive, especially for me as a women, there are still ways that I have found can help to increase intimacy in my own life.
Some of the ways, I help to keep the fires burning during this supposed dark and gloomy time of the year are as below.
15 Ways to Reconnect Just in Time for Valentine’s Day
1. Go on an afternoon date for two, while the kids are in school for lunch or even just some hot chocolate.
2. Once the kids are in bed, play some fun board games or old school video games together.
3. Do a mini movie marathon with some winter-themed, romantic comedies, such as Groundhog’s Day.
4. In the early morning hours, cuddle in bed while the kids are still asleep.
5. Enjoy a fun and early breakfast in bed.
6. Catch up on favorite shared DVR’d shows together.
7. Clean and organize the house together making sure to work as a team.
8. Cook dinner, bake favorite desserts or cookies with each other.
9. Attend an indoor music concert or sporting event just the two of you for a date night out.
10. Toast marshmallows on the stove top and make smores, plus add your favorite glass of wine, too.
11. Exercise/workout together–getting fit and ready for the warmer weather together.
12. Bookstore or library date to browse through to find books to be able to read together.
13. Write love letter or poem to each other for the future, so as to make a time capsule and only open them together on a decided upon time, such as 5 or 10 years from now.
14. Play in the snow together–make a snowman, snow angels or have a snow ball fight.
15. When all else fails though, I have used Fiera, which was created specifically for women in relationships to better prepare us for intimacy, connecting, communicating with our partners, as well as overall help to re-spark my own relationship.
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Essentially, Fiera helps to get your mind, as well as your body in the mood.
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I have personally found that it has allowed for our own romantic relationship connection to be rekindled here, thanks to Fiera.
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What are some ways that you add romance and reconnect in the winter time or for Valentine’s Day?
Nellie says
So much fun!! I haven’t done the whole breakfast in bed romantic gesture in a really long time! Maybe because the kids pretty much always wake us up so early haha. Great tips!!
Janine says
Aw, thanks Nellie and finally seeing our kids sometimes sleep in more and is on my short list here, as well very soon for breakfast in bed!! 🙂
Kathy Radigan says
These are great suggestions. My husband and I have started to plan dates when the kids are in school. He takes a day off and we go to a movie or lunch. It’s so nice to have that time together just as a couple. And thanks for the info about Fiera, very interesting. It’s might be funny to talk about but having an intimate relationship with our husbands or partners is really important for our own health and happiness. Thanks for sparking the conversation! xo
Janine says
Aw, Kathy so happy to be able to spark the conversation and truly agree so important and essential in a healthy marriage and relationship. Oh and I love the day/afternoon date. Definitely, have been doing it more here since our kids are both in school full-time this past year xoxo
Kathy Radigan says
It’s so important for us to remember that we were a couple first before parents. Thanks for the great tips! xo
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
I couldn’t agree more Kathy and very happy to share some tips for this here today xoxo
Seana Turner says
Hooray, hooray for #7 ! It really can bring you a shared sense of accomplishment and closeness:) I also love board games…
Janine says
Totally thought of you with #7 and knew you’d approve! I love board games, too 🙂
Jen says
I have never heard of Fiera! Good to know! My husband and I actually have a lunch date planned today! It has been a long. long time since we have gone somewhere alone. Time to rectify that!
Janine says
Yay and have a wonderful lunch date once again and thanks again for tweeting for me, too!! 😉
Bill says
I bought Bev tickets to a play for Christmas…the play will be on Valentine’s Day…killed two birds with one stone. 🙂 Happy Thursday, Janine.
Janine says
That is perfect Bill and hoping you both enjoy the play now, too. Happy Thursday, as well!! 🙂
Diane Roark says
Janine,
I love all your suggestions. To me, the best way to show love is to help me get caught up with chores around the house. When I get help, I am not as stressed and do not feel as tired. We are able to spend more time together.
Thanks again for sharing all these great ideas.
Blessings,
Diane
Janine says
Happy to share and I am with you on the cleaning help, as it does help me feel less stressed totally! 🙂
Rea says
My husband and I cook together. Or at least make something to eat in the kitchen together as much as we can.It takes hard work to keep the spark especially with kids and work and boredom, lol. Never heard of Fiera before. Very informative!
Janine says
Aw, my pleasure in sharing Fiera here today with you and you are right with kids in the mix it does take work to keep that spark alive and going. Couldn’t agree more.
Allie says
Not to go off-topic on you:), but I need the recipe for the pasta dish in the picture. Please! And I love afternoon dates.
Janine says
Aw, that was actually from our recent afternoon date to Noodles and Co. It is their Japanese Pan Noodles with shrimp. Might need to try to recreate and see if I could come up with an at home recipe to share here though. Now you gave me an idea and have to see what I can do 😉
Carrie Groneman says
It is so important to take time to be together and push the world away. Date nights are critical in keeping a marriage strong.
Janine says
I totally agree, Carrie and just so vital and important indeed.
Tamara says
I can’t wait to write my post!
I want breakfast in bed badly.
I just ordered a cute red dress and I plan to wear it for a date night with black boots. Even if we just go out for hot chocolate. We’ve been working on more together time lately – and going to bed at the same time. That’s a new one!
Janine says
Going to bed at the same time is definitely something we need to work on. Oh and want to see a pic of the red dress and boots now 😉
Kristen says
I love all of your suggestions, specifically number 7 & 11 ! And wow, great sponsor! wink wink!
Janine says
I also love both 7 and 11 and couldn’t agree more about my sponsor here today, as well! 🙂
Aunt Gloria says
Lots of good suggestions ….enjoy the romantic journey! xxoo
Janine says
Thanks so much, Aunt Gloria xoxo 😉
Kristen Miller Hewitt says
Its so easy to put our kids first – but marriage is number 1!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Totally agree with you, Kristen
Kathy Radigan says
It really is so hard to keep marriage number 1, but Kristen is so right, it’s so important!!
Janine says
I completely agree with both of you!!
Whitney Lang Fleming says
A good marriage makes everything better for the kids. Great post!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Totally agree and thank you, Whitney!!
Chris Carter says
LOVE your list Janine!! Those are such awesome ideas!! I am going to refer to them often through these grueling winter months… You gave me some good ideas for Valentine’s Day!!
And whoa to the Fiera!!
Janine says
Thank you again, Chris and I know Fiera is a must 😉
Christine Carter says
Those were SUCH great ideas, Janine!! Love them!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Aw, thanks so much Chris
Emily says
I’m taking your advice and planned a lunch date with my hubby today. 🙂 And Fiera? Never heard of it, but sure sounds interesting to say the least. 🙂
Janine says
Have fun on your lunch date and Fiera is definitely very interesting indeed! 🙂
Fiera For Her says
Love idea #13!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Aw, me too!! 🙂
Alison Tedford says
Love!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
<3 <3
Gingi says
Love your list! Hubby and I were having our first EVER marriage lull. Two kids sapping our energy constantly took its toll. The weirdest thing rekindled our spark though… going to the Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University. Haha. Working on a budget has somehow become romantic. Go figure! –
Janine says
Going, whatever works and just glad that it did help rekindle that spark for you both 😉
Gingi says
ME TOO! heheh…
Janine says
😉 😉
Kristi Campbell says
Hubs and I are going on a date.
Janine says
Aw, good for you both 😉
Shelly says
Aww, as a long time married woman, I thought your suggestions would be some BS, but, they aren’t. I love all your suggestions! I think you have found the key to long lasting marriage. #1 is being too stubborn to give up! I’ve been married 20+ years and we have four kids!
Janine says
Thank you Shelly for your kind words and am also pretty stubborn here. So works out well in keeping our marriage alive and thriving for sure, too 😉
Dana says
We do date nights whenever we can…and a trip planned for March. Okay, it’s a business trip for Matt, but we’re extending it before and after to make it an Us trip.
Janine says
That is awesome and very excited for you both, Dana!! 😉
Mom of the Year says
Love this!!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Hugs and thank you!!! <3
Leslie says
This is a great list…very actionable items! The Husband and I used to write love letters to each other when we first started dating. It might be fun even to just go back and re-read what we once wrote…and maybe add to it.
Janine says
Love the love letter idea and my husband used to email me daily from work when we first met. Definitely might be fun to get back into those emails and re-read at the very least 😉
Alexa says
These are super tips Janine! Goes along really well with our lose the cape post today about sex after baby and reconnecting! Sharing on our facebook page!
Janine says
Thank you Alexa so very much for sharing this one and going to check out you later on Lose the Cape now, too!! 🙂
indah nuria Savitri says
Great list indeed…Have tried some of them on daily basis but still, we need to keep the sparks goin’..Thanks, Janine 🙂
Janine says
Aw, glad you have and my pleasure sharing, Indah!! 🙂
Kenya G. Johnson says
The most we do on this are date days since we both work from home. We occassionally go out to lunch somewhere and all the romance happpens before the bus comes in the afternoon 😉 We do have shared DVR shows but I’m always sleepy when he’s ready to watch.
Janine says
Afternoon seems to be our speed lately, too and I confess I recently fell asleep watching a DVR movie on the second night of the blizzard here. So trust me, we have some successes, but a few failures, too still.
Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom says
I love your suggestions – I’m actually planning an in-home date for the hubby this Saturday — I haven’t told him. I want to surprise him with dinner, dessert, maybe a board game and wine.
Thanks for sharing!
xoxo
Janine says
Aw, that sounds awesome and hope you both enjoy xoxo 😉
Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
We don’t do Valentine’s Day, but we lots of other fun and romantic stuff on other days.
Janine says
Sounds great to me, Robin!! 😉
Bev says
I think Sam and I are long overdue to plan something romantic together. Thanks for the great suggestions!
Janine says
My pleasure and happy I could share, Bev!! 🙂
Colin says
My wife and I kind of disconnected for a time when our son was born but we are now working on getting back on track with where are relationship should be. I agree that date nights (or mornings, afternoons, or whatever) are very important. But I believe we take it up a notch a bit because bath time is also in our list of “just us” times. 🙂
Janine says
Aw, love that bath time is just us times and thank you for sharing, Colin!
Tori says
With kid, work and our pets it’s easy to forget about each other and our needs. Great suggestions on how to add some spice back in to couple’s lives. The Fiera does sound interesting, I always find it’s harder to get in the mood than the hubby! #ducksnarow
Tori
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Janine says
Tori, same here and definitely have my moments too were I find it a bit harder, as well.
Katie says
Really great tips – someone else said it but they are so right, your relationship as a couple should come first before the family. The stronger you are together the stronger your whole family unit will be. Thanks for the great post, I found you at the wonderful Wednesday blog hop.
Janine says
Thank you and totally do agree once again, too.
The Pinterested Parent says
I need to do all of these things. My husband works such odd hours that we hardly ever get time alone. When he is home we try to have the family together. These are great suggestions. I love that you put in the movie Ground Hog Day. Lol
Janine says
Definitely had to include Groundhog’s Day and so true about finding ways to spend time together 😉