Queen of Commenting!! Yes, I have been called this on few occasions, but even I have my moments as to why I am spending the good portion of my day as of late constantly connected. Maybe it is a bit of Summer Fever, but still I have been itching to play hooky!!
However, I have some wonderful blogs and Hubpages authors that I do follow and follow me back, too. And try my best to read, connect and leave a small message that I indeed connect to the article I just read.
Commenting Makes the World Go Round
But I will admit with this does come a bit of burnout and add to the fact that I also just doing Web Design for my company J9 Designs, and I am finding I am exhausted, as well as down-right cranky.
Take two nights ago, I actually went to bed early as I felt a migraine coming on with hopes of feeling better in the morning. Lo and behold, I felt even worse in the morning (even having slept pretty well) with a full-blown migraine that left me honestly not wanting to read nor comment on anyone’s blog.
Ironically, I have been working on a short book about commenting (on top of all of the above) and help to increase reader engagement for writers. And yesterday, I felt like doing anything but this, with how badly my eyes and head hurt. But I digress.
However, let me get back on track here. I have found as I was writing this book that I do have quite a lot of knowledge base on this topic, but thought that I would like some of my readers’ input on this, too.
What Makes for a Good Comment?
So of course, this got my gears working and truly got me thinking about what I could do to find out how others feel about commenting and what they are looking for in reader responses in particular.
This is where, you, my faithful reader comes in. I want to get a bit of input and help from you on this subject.
So please take the poll below and you can always submit a comment here, as well with any other thoughts or feelings you may have on this topic. I am looking to compile and hopefully use this data to include in the book in the future.
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massholemommy says
In my almost 4 years of blogging, I've gotten a handful of nasty comments and I have to say that they totally bring me down. I mean, why take the time to be malicious. Thankfully, there were only 5 or 6 over that whole time, but they were definitely a downer.
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Janine Huldie says
Robin, I know what you mean and definitely a downer, but kind of happy in a way that we can moderate comments for this reason, because I think if it is that negative we have the last say as to if we even want to publish and acknowledge.
heathero626 says
I don't mind getting criticism, but there is a "right" and a "wrong" way to give that criticism. If it's worded so that it's clear that the commenter is trying to be helpful but still honest, then that's great. If it's just intended to be mean and critical — a more blunt honesty, I suppose — then I don't care for it, and it won't be taken to heart anyway.
You're such an excellent commenter, Janine. I try… I do… but I can't hold a candle to you. When I write a post and you don't comment, I feel this kind of letdown… Janine Withdrawal? Silly huh? 😉
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Janine Huldie says
Heather that truly makes perfect sense to me and I love reading your blog. Trust me if I miss a post, it is because I totally am doing 10 things at once and probably just blinked when you posted. But seriously sorry if I do and hope you know that I love you and your blog!! 🙂
heathero626 says
I would never hold it against you if you don't comment! Your time management skills astound me, so never apologize for not making it to everyone. I'm lucky to have you as a reader, and I appreciate every single bit of input and feedback I've ever received from you. 🙂
My recent post A Father’s Day Letter To My Grieving Husband
Janine Huldie says
Oh thank you Heather for being so understanding and trust me I love you and your blog. So believe me though when I say if I miss a post it is definitely an oversight and not that I didn't want to come. Just so happy we have found each other through blogging and do consider you to be a wonderful bloggy friend!! 🙂
clarkscottroger says
I have been fortunate in this regard, my Queen*! in that I have not received negative Comments, at least not that come to mind.
I totally love to get Comments and try to always reply (and will try to backtrack to the Commenter's own blog and leave my own there, this is an approach that I see Kristi (at 'Finding Ninee') takes along with other writers that I read.)
For my own Commenting, my goal is simple: to find something that I can directly relate to in the Post and write a Comment indicating that… for me a Comment is the ultimate blogistic compliment, it shows that a peer has taken the time to not only read what you have worked to create, but to acknowledge it.
…good Post.
*lol a crown that will go un-challenged
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Janine Huldie says
Thank really is a wonderful system and did notice that Kristi did that. Honestly, I try my best, but sure once in awhile something falls through the cracks for me. I guess I am human and am bound to miss something here or there. But thank you Clark for sharing, because I truly want to hear what others have to say on this!! 🙂
Dee says
Sorry to hear about your migraine, Janine. But, it didn't keep you down and that is amazing! I comment postively on posts and only add constructive advice only if it will make a difference or helps the writer avoid a problem. We all get those comments from people who just want to make a scene, ignoring them is best. (AKA Teaches12345)
Janine Huldie says
Dianna, couldn't agree with you more about ignoring those people who are only out to make a scene. I have truly mastered and learned how to use comment moderation (and think that does help out in these cases). Thank you so much though for your honest opinion here and as for the migraines, I think I am so used to them, because I have been getting them for years at that time of the month and pretty much just deal if that makes sense! 🙂
The Dose of Reality says
We actually like hearing frompeople who disagree with us. We don't do too many posts where that comes into play, but we've done some. We like nothing more than a dialogue when we do, though. We welcome anyone –agree or not–to join in the "conversation" as long as it's done appropriately (ie respectfully and not nastily)
For us, commenting is about connecting with someone. We like to make a comment about something we've read in a way that does that. –The Dose Girls
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Janine Huldie says
I love that you are looking for a debate in your comments and that truly is awesome. I think it totally depends on the article and topic, but do think many of your posts are as you said built for that. thank you ladies for weighing in and truly appreciate it!! 🙂
Karen says
LOVE THIS POST…I know I always say that, LOL. but seriously, it made me think. When I did some fanfiction writing and need to get back to that, there were always people who would just leave generic comments, then others that would praise and/or react wholeheartedly to the story and make laugh, others that ridiculed your plot, or broke you down. The same goes for blogging, but we are all nicer here. I've seen commenters who don't agree with me, but still have a nice comment or praise me for speaking my mind even if they don't agree. I've had a only one or two that were rude and they never came back. thankfully I haven't had any spelling jerks come around, though I am sure it would be well-justified.
I try to be a good commenter, sometimes I write long or short comments. Even if I don't agree with the post I try to comment positive on something and look for another post I may like. On the rare occasion I just couldn't post nicely, I have chosen to not post at all. I didn't want to lie.
Janine Huldie says
Karen, I am glad this one struck a cord with you. I truly was so hoping to get some wonderful and valuable input and have already gotten that with your comment and others. So, I thank you so very much for that!! I m with you on try to find something positive to say when I leave a moment!! 🙂
dishofdailylife says
I actually don't leave a comment if I have nothing to say. I don't mind constructive criticism on my own blog and I have been lucky with comments. If it's a new person commenting, I have the option of moderating so if it's really negative, I don't have to accept it. I have accepted a negative one here and there and just commented back.
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Janine Huldie says
Every once in a while Michelle, I am left with nothing really to add and am with you on not leaving a comment, but also do agree that comment moderation does help out so much on this one for sure!!
Dianne says
I like to give positive comments mostly and sometimes it will have some constructive criticism. If I don't agree with a poster, then I won't comment at all unless I can state it in a way that it would be perceived as conversational, if that makes sense. Unfortunately, you can't convey appropriate tone via typing. I may mean something one way and the reader of my comment may take it differently. This happened to me once when I shared a comment and I was positive in my writing it but the reader (OP) perceived negatively. I felt bad and had to explain myself that it wasn't a negative comment at all. I don't like making people feel bad, no matter what.
I have yet to receive a negative comment on my blog. While I may think that I can brush it off, reality for me is that it will bother me some but then I'd get over it.
Janine Huldie says
Dianne, I m with you on sometimes the written word can get misconstrued or misconceived. I remember back in college, when I was taking a communications class, the teacher explaining this in conjunction with how when spoke directly to someone it is less likely that someone would take something the wrong way is if the same was written. Very fine line and do a think you make a great point here. Thank you!! 🙂
ajoyful says
I definitely appreciate it when people have something to say on my blog. If it's not all positive, that is okay, as long as it is constructive, and not just mean!
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Janine Huldie says
I do agree and think for me at least, I try never to be outright mean to anyone when I commenting. And see your point on this. Thank you!! 🙂
nextstepblog says
Okay, I don't think any of those 5 choices encompasses what *I* think good commenting looks like. I think good commenting is as individual as the articles and blog posts. A piece that is all "GAH! My kids drive me crazy!" is not looking for any kind of critique (unless specifically stated, "what do I DO?") and something supportive and positive would be best for the situation.
A piece that is social commentary is seeking others opinions and either positive or negative comments are appropriate, as long as they don't attack the writer personally, or are useless to the conversation like critique on the author's writing skills.
I think the best kind of commentary is one that is instinctual (what is the reader's initial reaction to the piece?) without being insulting.
Janine Huldie says
Lori, again well said and I guess I was looking for overall, but didn't exactly take into account for different genres of articles. Thank you for pointing that out and will definitely keep that in mind as I go forward, too!! 🙂
Niki says
I guess my answer could be a couple of the choices. I never expect to receive 100% positive comments and for people to blow smoke up my a**, but I also think that if there’s something negative to say, it’s better to say nothing at all. Usually, I feel that these are the cases where someone is directly insulting the blogger’s choices, personal style, personality, etc and it is uncalled for. In cases where a question is asked by the blogger, however, I feel that comments should be honest!! I want to get to know my readers for who they really are and what they personally like and dislike.
Janine Huldie says
Thanks Niki and will say I love when a reader shares what their personal connections or feelings are to something I have posted. So I very much get that and understand what you are saying!!
MelChi says
I don't agree with posting anything nasty one someone else's blog. They take the time and effort to write something interesting and if you don't agree with it – simply don't comment, or say so in a constructive way but leaving on a positive note. I agree with some of the commenters…when I get a nasty or yukky comment all I want to do is delete it. It's got nothing to do with growing a thick skin…that's what editors and rejection letters and all that's for…reviews of a book and what have you. I personally feel that a blog is a place for people to connect. It cheers me up seeing my blogging friends and other people reading and commenting on my blog. I love it when someone disagrees with me, but I don't like it when they're nasty about it.
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Janine Huldie says
Mel, I am so not the nasty commenting type either and am of the mindset that if I have nothing nice to say then I just don't say anything at all. Disagreeing is one thing, but being nasty is not necessary and do very much agree with you on that!! Thanks Mel!! 🙂
Joan Robertson says
Great post, and what a really good idea this is! Commenting seems to be the factor that marks blogging, it's not just the writing! I'll be waiting for that book! See you!
Janine Huldie says
Oh thanks so much Joan and hoping that this will indeed help others with on this area!! 🙂
nothingbythebook says
I give you permission from taking a break commenting on my blog. I'll still know you love me. 😛 It's summer, after all… xoxo indefatigable you
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Janine Huldie says
Lol, Jane and I love you!! And your blog, too!! 🙂
Billybuc says
Interesting poll, Janine! I look forward to the results, and yes, you are the Queen of Comments in my book.
Have a great week!
bill
Janine Huldie says
Oh thank you so very much Bill and promise to share the results here soon!!! Have a wonderful day, too!! 🙂
Michelle Liew says
Yes, I agree that it's a well deserved title for you. You really make commenting an art! Thanks for sharing, Janine, and will monitor your poll results~
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Janine Huldie says
Oh thanks Michelle and promise to share the results in the future, too!! 🙂
obnoxiouswallflower says
I really enjoyed this topic. I am fairly new to the blogging world and have yet to receive a nasty comment. That being said, because I one day hope to be a "strong" writer, I think I would openly welcome a level of criticism…maybe. I also may end up crying in a corner. Thanks for the great read!
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Janine Huldie says
I am glad to share with you and seriously I am almost blogging a year and have had a few here and there, but I think it just does come with the territory. That said, it can be upsetting even though you may know that you will get them from time to time, it still does hurt I suppose. But comment moderation, as I said, helps.
Amy mayen says
I wrote a post about how to leave thoughtful comments over at the Blogging Tips & Tricks series at Pluckys Second Thought. I always give more attention to my thoughtful commenters, it's hard not to! You want to find out more about them & you end up spending more time at their site.
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Janine Huldie says
Amy, I am totally with you on this one and I always try to return the favor, too when I get thoughtful comments from others, especially new commenters, because it is so very much appreciated that they would stop by and also leave some kind words, too. I would love to read your post on Plucky's Second Thought, too 🙂
Chance of Wine says
I often wonder how you find the time to comment on so many blogs, Janine! You really are amazing. Always connected and always making me feel like there's someone at the other end of my computer who GETS me, if that makes any sense.
We were away for a couple of weeks and I forced myself not to read any blogs for the last half of our trip. It was actually really nice, and I found myself feeling a bit panicked this morning that all of the craziness was going to start again. But, I have to admit I missed it. 🙂
As for mean comments… I hate them. I've had a few here and there, mostly when I've written somewhere other than my blog, and I always think, "what is the purpose?" I mean, I get it if someone is writing something that is utterly offensive, but when someone is writing a light-hearted post and a reader feels the need to cut them down, it really irks me. I know we're all entitled to our own opinions, but I hate how some people go out of their way to make others feel badly about themselves.
Anyway, there's my 2 cents!!!! I can't wait to read your book!
xo
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Janine Huldie says
First off, I am so happy you had the time off and I think we all do need if from time-to-time. That said, I would also probably be similar when I knew I had to return to the daily grind so to speak. I would be happy, but I would also be a bit stressed, too. On the comments, yet again we do so very much agree, because I am so not sure why others have to be so cruel, especially if it is a light hearted guest post. Seriously, my mother always said, "If you an't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all!" And couldn't agree with that more. And don't forget along the lines of guest posting, the offer is still open here. When you get back into the swing of things, you are definitely more then welcome to guest post here!! 🙂
Kelly says
Hi Janine! Great post and topic. I know many of us have given this lots of thought but it's cool to be able to see what other people say. I love comments and I really just want the person to say what they thought. Even if its not good or what I wanted to hear…the hardest falls are the ones I learn most from!
Janine Huldie says
Kelly, I have to say I love hearing others thoughts and perspective on this too, because I think we all bring slightly different thought pattern on this one. I thank you so much for giving your two cents here, because it really is opening my eyes to how others do feel!!
@VioletImperfect says
I have no idea how you do all the commenting you do and I think I speak for everyone that if you are tired and not feeling it….take a break. We all love you!
I don't like generic comments, I feel like I'd you are taking the time to comment that it should be relevant. That's why for our link party I read each post and try so hard to post a relevant comment. It's not always easy!
Janine Huldie says
Oh thank you so much Leslie for saying that. I love reading and commenting. I honestly do find it refreshing and quite fun for the most part. I am so like you with out FTSF linkup on Fridays and also try my best to read each linked up post if possible and connect with a relevant comment, too!! 🙂
Ren Blogger says
I'd love to sound all spiritual and mature but, honestly, if someone doesn't agree I don't want to hear it. Every person can find something they agree with in a post,, and if you can't, don't comment. Move on to the next blog. I'm a busy mom of three, I'm not feeling unsure about my path and I don't write with the intent of wanting/needing advice- if I want/need it, I ask for it. I don't have the time or desire to argue with anyone over (nor the inclination to justify) my beliefs and choices. If you really don't agree, be a grown up- don't comment and don't follow. Just honestly how I feel.
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Janine Huldie says
Ren, very well said and well put. I agree and have said it before here today about not commenting if you don't have anything nice to say, then just don't. Thank you for sharing and weighing it today. Very much appreciate!! 🙂
Ren Blogger says
Phew! Glad it was an ok comment! I was worried after that it sounded too negative LOL! Since you agree I'll post a link to a post I wrote on another blog about comments on FB/social media- it can totally be applied to the blogosphere too 😉 It's a rant so, it's tone isn't too positive but, it might just make you smile an "amen" 😉 .
My recent post The Father of My Children
Janine Huldie says
No not at all did I think that and I thank you for your honesty here. Seriously, I appreciate your reading and sharing with me. And thank you, too for sharing. So very much appreciated!! 🙂
@1motivatingmom says
Commenting is so important to connect with others. On my blog I have received nothing but positive comments on Youtube however you get trolls that there only purpose in life seems to leave negative comments on peoples videos. Youtube can be an unforgiving place but it can also be an excellent way to connect with people on a much more personal level because they can see your face. I use the comments good and bad to help make my posts and videos better. I am just hopping over from the "I Don't Like Monday's" Blog Hop.
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Janine Huldie says
I barely use YouTube to post up videos and such, but this is very interesting and ha no idea as to what you shared over on that end. Thank you so much for stopping by and giving your input.
NuggetOnABudget says
Even though I've been commenting on blogs for over a year, I have to admit that I hardly ever give negative comments or even constructive criticism. If I don't agree with a post I read, I mostly just don't comment…although on Facebook sometimes I'll leave a negative comment on something I don't agree with {though not on blogs' FB pages}. I guess that's usually because I comment for the most part on my close friends' blogs and those that I read daily. I'm really excited though to read your book on commenting when you finish it. You're an inspiration to me, you know…being a full-time mommy AND growing your own blog, J9 Designs, and doing so many other things. 🙂 xoxo
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Janine Huldie says
First off, thank you for always being such a wonderful friend and supporter. That said, I am truly with you on this, because I too feel like the blogs I read are mostly friends and those I share a connection with. So, my own commenting is usually quite positive and left out of love, as well as a mutual/shared connection. Nice to know that we look as so many things similarly, this included!! 🙂 xoxo!!
Lanaya says
You are the queen of commenting. And I have had a draft saved about a subject very similar to this. Great minds once again. I choose not to leave comments on anything that I don't personally agree with. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and it is just that … an opinion. Far be it for me to start a comment war with someone when I have so many better things to be doing.
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Janine Huldie says
Thank you so much Lanaya and seriously I love that you and I always seem to think alike and definitely think it is that Gemini connection!! Love you and thank you as always!! 🙂 xoxo!!
catherine gacad says
I don't think comments should be judged on whether they are positive or negative. The best comments are those that make me think, 'Wow I didn't think of that.' Even better are comments that stir debate, where other commenters start commenting on that comment.
Janine Huldie says
Catherine, I honestly see your point and you do make a good one here. I love blog posts and comments that do make you think a bit outside the box and create a great forum. So, thank you for sharing here with me and do very much appreciate it!! 🙂
pictimilitude says
I commented earlier but it didn't take. Grrr.
Anyways, I shared it on G+ but I don't think I tagged you. comments: I try to keep them positive, but if I have some sort of issue, I try to message the person privately. 🙂
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Janine Huldie says
Oh thank you for commenting, sharing and returning Cyndi. I totally appreciate all and seriously sorry you had an issue earlier!!
Janine Huldie says
So true Melissa and can tell you I have been suffering since my mid-twenties during my period more or less. Right now I have found Midol does work for me for the most part, but still once it wears off I do start feeling pressure back in my head again. So not fun. And you know I very much enjoy reading your blog and must admit BlogLovin is a huge help, because I check it a few times a day and get to see new posts pretty easily and quickly there. I also see your point about commenting and thank you again for sharing with me!! 🙂
Menopausalmother says
You ARE the queen of commenting, and I am always so happy to see you on my page! I just want to say thanks for all the nice things you always say when you visit—you really are kind and you leave the sweetest comments!!! Thank you! XO
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Janine Huldie says
Thank you so much Marcia for saying that and seriously always being so kind to me. Truly so appreciated and glad we have connected this way!! 🙂 xoxo!!
Erin Callaway says
You are the queen of comments for sure! I don't know how you keep up with it all. I have a few blogs that I follow religiously and I try my best to comment! I just don't know how you find the time to read so much – you must have a secret pill that gives you extra hours in the day!! Please share! LOL. I usually keep my comments positive unless it's a post that is asking for true and honest comments on a certain subject. I keep it honest or I don't comment at all,
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Janine Huldie says
Erin, I am trying to come up with an answer to better explain how I do get to comment as much and am currently trying to put this all down on paper in a book format if that helps. But just try my best I suppose. Thank you though for being honest and sharing here with me!! 🙂 xoxo!!
canigetanotherbottleofwhine says
I like it best when people are honest, but not nasty. I don't want someone to tell me that something I wrote was hilarious if it only made them smile. And if anyone can write a book on commenting – it would be you, Janine. Definitely the Queen of Commenting!
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Janine Huldie says
Oh thanks so much Kate for sharing here and helping me out and for your kind words, too!! 🙂
katbiggie says
I really don't like it when people are ugly, especially just for the sake of being ugly. I like it when people are engaging, and I can tell that they connected with my post and are cheering me on!
Speaking of constructive criticism, I am worried about you! You need to take something off your plate, or you're gonna have a nervous breakdown! You are such an amazing supporter, but make sure you take care of you too!! 🙂 xoxo
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Janine Huldie says
Oh thanks for your kindness Alexa and trust me I am trying to take it easy in the evenings and weekends, too. But yes I can overdo it sometimes and do appreciate your concern. Thank you for just being a wonderful friend and so supportive, too!! 🙂
Betty Taylor says
I love reading people's comments to see what they have to say about what I chose to post that day. I don't mind a little constructive criticism. Sometimes it really helps you to know what people are thinking. I do really enjoy the comments you leave on my blog.
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Janine Huldie says
Oh thanks Betty for sharing your take on this and I do love reading and sharing with you, too!! 🙂
Kelly (Mom Light) says
Is this a good comment ? 😉 I hope your migraine is better. I get terrible migraines. Just wanted to say thanks for always keeping up with my blog. I, again, don't know how you do it. I have so much trouble even blogging on my own blog let alone commenting and following consistently on other people's. I try to but it's so hard. Anyway, hope you are well!
Janine Huldie says
Oh thank you Kelly and wonderful comment. I am starting to feel a bit better, since that time of the month is coming to an end now. But it is my pleasure to keep with you and your blog. I just try my best and please just know that I just value our friendship and hope you too are doing well!! 🙂
christyb says
Dear Janine, I hope your head is feeling better today. I understand about burnout and there is always so much to do as freelancers! Sometimes it feels overwhelming. I appreciate your comments and support, and please understand I am fine if you don't make it to my site right away to read 🙂 I know you make time when you are able. Sending you love! Oh and GREAT idea for a poll – I see I am in the majority with my choice of being positive while offering a bit of criticism.
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Janine Huldie says
Thank you Christy for being so understanding and supportive. Seriously, I love coming and reading your blog whenever I can. Just happy to be able to share with you. And thank you also for not only commenting, but for voting and sharing, too!! 🙂
Rosey says
It's hard to vote…I like positive comments, but not if they're not real.
I don't mind constructive criticism at all.
But if a person leaving a comment is just being downright unpleasant, I wonder why they even leave a comment at all??? I'd rather they didn't if it's brutally honest in a negative way. Not everyone likes everyone, I know that…but if you don't like what you're reading, move along and just don't come back.
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Janine Huldie says
So true Rosey and you are right not everyone does like everyone. Trust me I know that there are people who don't like me, but I would rather they just didn't come or ignore me then be downright rude. Seriously not worth the time or energy (at least in my book), because if I don't like someone I just try my best to ignore them and move on, not go out of my way to be rude or hurtful. But I do get that it may be hard to vote, but just really do appreciate your input!! 🙂
anothercleanslate says
I've been a slacker this week. It is tough sometimes so I try to read even if I don't have the motivation to comment too 🙂 I will always be loyal though, lady!
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Janine Huldie says
Thank you for saying that Katie and seriously we all have our weeks. Trust me, I have been there, too, but thank you for your friendship and support. Means the world to me!! 🙂
@mrsdchastain says
I must admit, I am terrible about commenting. I read blogs but if I feel that I can't contribute in a genuine, sincere, honest, helpful, etc way then I just go to the next blog. :/ It's not that I didn't care about what I read, but commenting can be time consuming and I want what I say to benefit the author in some way.
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Janine Huldie says
Diana, I think it really just depends on what you are comfortable with in commenting. I can totally understand where you are coming from and just appreciate you sharing and being honest with how you feel. I don't think there is a right or wrong way with this, but was just interested in seeing how others thought and felt on this. So for that I thank you again!! 🙂
Considerer says
I guess I missed this somewhere in my hiatus over Father's day. I trust your migraine's gone now – they're icky 🙁
I voted that a comment should be mostly positive but also contain some constructive criticism. I'm not quite sure if this fully encompasses what I wanted to say – constructive criticism is helpful if the post is seeking advice or posing a question, but is rarely warranted otherwise (unless you, the reader, sees something glaringly wrong about the blog or its tenor and can offer advice to improve the perceived problem). In general, something nice which acknowledges the post that was written and in some way offers some kind of resonance – this is what it's all about – conncectedness.
Comments which essentially 'scent mark' the blog I find difficult to respond to as I like to know how my reader (if they take time to comment) has reacted to what I've written – has it affected them? Do they care? Did it make them think?
I am fortunate not to have had a negative comment yet, but I daresay the time will come 🙂
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Janine Huldie says
Thank you so much Lizzi for your input and seriously I do get what you are saying. I think you are right about constructive criticism if is asking for it, but mostly I know I try to connect on some level to the writer and keep it as positive as I can. But again that is just me, but does sound like we have a similar outlook on this!! 🙂