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Kissing, Review Posts and Assuming

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“I Love You,” and hugs, as well as kisses are is just a daily part of my life. See warm and affectionate has always been just a part of me. I may be sarcastic at times as most know from reading my posts, but I am very loving and loyal, too.

I Say This Often Enough!!

So most days, my husband and my girls get told that I love them more times than I can count. Also, I am a hugger and kisser as I already stated. When we get up in the morning, Kevin leaves for work, returns home or goes to bed, I always make sure to kiss him or tell him that I do indeed love him. The same for my girls, plus I am with them for most of the day, so they get hugs and kisses pretty much throughout the day.

Recently, I was saw a prompt questioning when was the last time I said those three little words from the beginning of this passage and to be honest, I say it so often I don’t remember the last time, because it is almost 8 pm at night as I am writing this and have said these words about 1,234,567,890 times already today and if I had to narrow it down, it was probably to one of my girls, because it is true other than Emma going to school, we have been home all day long.

As much as my girls can be beasts at time, I do very much love them. And not only tell them, but show them. As I said, I am a huge believer in hugging and kissing. My kids have been smothered since birth with this from me, because that is just the way I roll.

However, I have been getting a lot of requests to do posts/reviews for companies and such.  No you are probably asking yourself how this fits in with my previous thoughts so far.  Well stay with me on this, because one e-mail I received actually wanted me to come out against kissing your kids, because it could cause cavities (essentially selling cosmetic dentistry for children). We aren’t talking about kissing on the mouth either (get your mind out of the gutter!), but kisses on the cheeks, forehead or just your normal loving mother type kisses.

My first thought was are you insane and I can spin a lot of things and probably could do this, but you know what I don’t want to, because I do give my girls kisses and love them to pieces even on the worst of days.

My Sarcasm on This Should Come Through Loud & clear!!

My Sarcasm on This Should Come Through Loud & clear!!

So while I may review products on here, offer discounts and/or giveaways, I will not be endorsing this or anything that goes against my actual core beliefs. In my eyes, what kind of mother would I be if I never gave my kids kisses? I want my girls growing up knowing they are loved and wanted.

By the way, this was just one of a few scenarios that they listed that could cause cavity baring bacteria in newborns, infants and children, but the kissing one was truly the one that stuck with me, because like I said I couldn’t imagine withholding kisses, because some Park Avenue dentist is trying to make a buck (yes it was a cosmetic dentist who wanted a plug on my site).

The best part of this e-mail was if you couldn’t help yourself and couldn’t refrain from such behaviors, there was an alternative or solution. Hold onto your seats for this one, because it is a doozy. This dentist’s advice was to wipe your baby’s mouth out with a clean wet cloth after each feeding.  If you wipe the tongue, teeth and the inside of the cheeks from infancy on then you will help to prevent the colonies of bacteria from forming apparently.

I swear to god my first thought was, “Did you ever meet a colicky baby?”  Sure I didn’t think so, because if I had ever tried this with Emma (who had colic), as an infant, she probably would have screamed so loud her head would have exploded on impact.

Then my other thought was, “Has this dentist ever taken care of more than one baby at a time?” Probably not and sure he has a nanny for this one, but still if he had I am sure that after a day of trying to keep up with this on top of all the other daily duties of a what most mothers do, he would surely have exhausted himself to the point of not repeating this one two days in a row. Thus, probably where the nanny would come in!!

Seriously, I am a mother to two children and lucky if I have time to as most know use the bathroom in peace for more then two minutes. So seriously this e-mail not only made me angry, but once the anger subsided, I couldn’t help, but laugh out loud just some at how ridiculous this actually sounded when you spoke it out loud.

So as for my endorsement, the e-mail went into the trash and right now I am kissing my kids while finishing this post up. Hope that clears up. Even though I have a blog, I will not be promoting every hair brained scheme that someone e-mails me just for shits and giggles.

If you do have an idea that is in reason, please do e-mail me (I do love doing reviews), but for god sakes please make it relevant to my site. I know that may mean actually reading a few of my posts and not just assuming that you will be a good fit for my blog. I will leave you with what my grandfather always said about assuming. “To assume something, only makes an ass out of you and me!!

By the way, I have joined NaBloPoMo for this month and not sure why I didn’t before, because I do write daily on here anyway, but I am following it loosely, because I am not using all the prompts for each and every day.  But again this one originated as one of their prompts for the month with “When was the last time you said, “I love you.”?  So, I guess the sarcastic side ruled out for this post after all!!

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About Janine

Janine is a published author of the books, The Mother of All Meltdowns and Only Trollops Shave Above the Knee. She has been featured on The Huffington Post, Mamapedia, Today Parenting Team and SheKnows. She also runs her own graphic design company at J9 Designs.

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  2. Dani Ryan says

    You and I are one and the same – lots of kisses and I love yous all around in this house. It makes my mother gag. 🙂

    And what is UP with that email you got?! Don't kiss your kids on the cheeks and forehead? Give me a break. And while there is merit to the whole "clean your kid's gums/teeth after every feed", I, too, had a fussy baby who was only content if she was breastfeeding. It was the only way i could get her to sleep for ELEVEN MONTHS. I talked to the dentist and he wasn't a fan but assured me it wasn't the end of the world. When I finally mastered sleep training (trust me, I tried for months), I ensured milk wasn't part of the falling to sleep part so I can avoid the teeth issue, but if someone had given me a hard time about it when I was in the thick of it, I would've exploded!!!

    Awesome post, and I got you on COMs last night and will do again tonight!!! 😉

    • Janine Huldie says

      Dani, I knew we had a lot in common and loved you pretty much from the start, but now I know for sure!! 🙂 Seriously, I am so not sure what was up with this e-mail, but I couldn't help, but write this, because like I said it angered me to even be asked to write on something this ridiculous. I do enjoy review posts, but this one was truly insane!! And I too voted last night for you (that is when my votes open up now for some reason), but I vote daily for you, too 🙂

  3. Cyndi says

    What is life without showing your loved ones that you LOVE them? Hehe. I would have turned this dentist down, too. Kisses causing cavities? OMG…good for you for taking a stand, too. 🙂

    • Janine Huldie says

      I agree with you on this 100% Cyndi and that is just the way I am with my loved ones. That said, I do feel honored to be asked to do reviews, but some like this one are truly outrageous and felt I needed to share this on here.

    • Janine Huldie says

      I am dead serious Alexa and was sitting there reading it for the first time twice over to make sure I was reading it correctly. I nicely trashed it, but then about a week later, they had the nerve to send me to same damn e-mail. So that, plus the prompt was what made this article be born so to speak!!

  5. Emily Cappo says

    I am really glad you trashed that email immediately…that's NUTS!! I'm starting to get some screwy emails too from other sites and companies and it annoys me too when it has nothing to do with my target audience or my site. Good for you on being a mushy, smushy, hugging, kissing mom…that's what makes it all worth it, right?!? 🙂

    • Janine Huldie says

      Oh thanks Emily and I do totally agree with you on being mushy, smushy, hugging, kissing mom!! I have had a few off the wall requests and this was just one of them and guess I just got a bit annoyed and frustrated at this point.

  6. Bill says

    I raised my son, alone, and not a day went by when he didn't hear "I love you" countless times. Today he is 28 and he still hears it, and he says it, and that, my friend, is what life is all about.

  7. Melanie Chisnall says

    Janine, I'm with you completely on this one. We say those words to each other just as often throughout the day, and we kiss each other good morning, good night, goodbye, just because, etc. You never know what's going to happen. Sometimes we fight and if one of us leaves to get some air, as much as it grates us, we will always kiss each other bye and say I love you. Life is too short – you really just never know. Great post, loved it! And good for you for turning that company down. Seriously. Some people are so full of it.

  10. Lanaya @ Raising Rea says

    OMG ~ the nerve of people. Hey world…stop kissing your kids! What the? That guy needs a serious reality check. Park Avenue moron!

    You kiss your babies all day long ~ that reminds me (kissing Reagan as she stuffs another strawberry in her mouth! LOL)

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  11. Ruchira says

    Seriously the path people take to promote their products. I am glad you dumped it, Janine. I agree that kids need to be loved and reminded since I feel that is the base of their strength.

    Voted for ya on both. cheers!

  13. Stacy Harris says

    I am not a huggy feeley lovey dove type person. It absolutely dumbfounds my husband. I want my personal bubble. Don't get me wrong – I tell my kids I love them and give them hugs and kisses but I am not the type of person that smothers everybody with affection. I remember the first time I was introduced to my husband's family and everybody hugged. I was like – whoah… but I am getting more used to it now.
    BTW – what a horrible product. Glad to see your sticking to what you believe in! 🙂

    • Janine Huldie says

      Oh thanks Stacy. I am more on the lines of your husband and so is my family like his, too. Kevin's is a bit more like you, but just like you has gotten used to it after all this time. That said even if I wasn't as much of an affectionate person, still think this one sounded more on the creep out level then anything.

  15. Stephanie Sprenger says

    That is absurd! I cannot imagine not kissing my kids at least a hundred times a day! I could never go without! What a ridiculous request…some people…

  18. Rachel Harper says

    Awesome Janine. I love doing reviews too, but only do what I want to do, on my terms, because I never want to sacrifice what I really think, my own beliefs, or to lie and say something is good when it's not. Great work!

  19. Janine Huldie says

    Richard, tell Gabriela for me that even though she still thinks the worst of me, I harbor no ill will and send her my best, lol!! That said loved the Hersey's Kiss comment and now may need to go get some for Valentine's Day (great excuse huh!!). Thanks 🙂

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