As I glance over to my caller id, my heart jumps just a bit with all the possible reasons for the present school phone call.
In those fleeting few seconds before actually answering the phone, I am conjuring up all sorts of possible reasons for this call.
Could be all well and good.
But could be not so good, too.
All my mom senses are heightened.
But as a mom, I do think I can say that when the phone rings and you see the school’s phone number come up, a bit of worry and even dreaded panic surfaces.
For all the worst possible thoughts begin to spin around your mom brain.
Such as possible worst case school phone call scenarios are as follows:
- A hurt or sick kid in need of medical attention.
- Struggling with this year’s current work load.
- Missed homework or more as far as academic issues.
- Misbehaving, not sharing or not getting along with another classmate/friend.
Even still having all these terrible no-good possible unknowns dancing around my mom head, it is now or never and the flight or fight reaction begins to take hold.
So, I answer it. Thankfully, the news is positively favorable. Therefore as my ears process this, my heart actually begins to slowly beat again normally. Plus, a smile takes form on my face.
See my baby has adjusted to her first days of being a kindergarten student, while her teacher excitedly shares this with me.
Don’t get me wrong, I had faith and believed she was ready. But still hearing her teacher’s confirmation makes it that much sweeter and all the more a reality.
And still yet, I know more challenges will lie ahead this year for her and her older sister. But, in this moment, am allowed to feel proud and even hopeful for all to come for this upcoming school year.
I also am aware that the more unpleasant school phones are bound to happen this year for us.
But I bask in this most excellent school phone call moment for now. So, I dodged the dreaded worst case school phone call for another day at the very least.
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Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
I got a call once when my son threw up at school, but other than that, the only calls I ever get are the reverse 911 calls with info.
Janine says
Yes, I get the reverse 911 calls, too from the district, but these call are more from the actual school with a live person (teacher/nurse) calling during the school day that I am talking about.
Leanne@crestingthehill says
the school calls are to toughen you up for the all the worrying you do when they’re teenagers (every police siren used to bring worst case scenarios to mind!) So glad this was a positive call and can be filed away with a sigh of relief! BTW Janine I have nominated you for a Blogger Recognition Award – if you’d like to participate you can find the info on my blog here: http://www.crestingthehill.com.au/2015/09/creating-circle-of-love-with-blogger.html#.VgJxgMuqqko
Janine says
Aw, thanks Leanne and will totally check this out now!! 🙂
Liza Hawkins says
First thoughts are always (and in this order), “Ugh. What’s happened? Who’s sick/hurt? What’s my work schedule like? How fast do I need to be there?”
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Yup, you nailed it and trust me I can usually be there in record time if I have to be, but still not a fun feeling in the least!
Liza Hawkins says
Thankfully, we don’t get too many calls home. 🙂
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Same here, but still not a fan!
Meredith says
I panic! EVERY TIME! So nice to know I’m not alone in this 🙂
Janine says
You are most certainly not alone and I swear my heart jumps in my throat at record speed time if I see the school number on my caller id!
Lindsey Renninger Schuster says
my thought would be “Oh ____”
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Yup and that blank would not be fit for little kids ears by any means here!
Heather aka HoJo says
As I former teacher, I can say that it can be nerve-wracking MAKING those phone calls. Even when I know I’m calling with good news, I never know how it will be taken. I once had a parent yell at me for bothering them during the day. They said if their child wasn’t dying, they didn’t want the call. Ouch. I felt so bad for that child!
I’m so glad it was a good phone call. Those were the easier phone calls to make! =)
Janine says
Heather, I also was a teacher and yes you are right the flip side can be frightening too. So sorry that the parent you described treated you that way. All I can say is I do try to remember when a teacher calls to be respectful and treat them the way I would have liked to have been treated, too.
Emily says
It’s kind of funny how we both use the word “dread” in our posts today…but I won’t digress! I can totally relate to the dreaded school phone call – my heart also starts racing and I immediately think, “oh no.” 9 times out of 10 it’s nothing more than a stomach ache. I’m so glad that yours was a happy call – what a relief!
Janine says
Emily, great minds seem to think alike! But yes thankfully good phonetical this time!! 🙂
Chris Carter says
Oh yes… those calls always freak me out because for years they were ALWAYS horrible. Usually the nurse… about Cass… and my heart would freeze and I would already be getting in the car and driving toward the school by the time our conversation would end.
Since she’s been well, there have been a lots more “GOOD” calls from teachers,much like yours! Except that one time when she did a cartwheel in 5th grade and landed on her face on the cement- breaking out her front ADULT tooth… That didn’t go so well. It turns out two years later after gluing that half of tooth back on at the emergency dentist appointment, that not just that one tooth but two teeth will need root canals and may not make it after all. They are slowly dying from the impact on that cement. Sigh… her two FRONT teeth!!
Apparently THAT call will go down in the history books most of all.
Janine says
OMG, Chris, you poor daughter and you, too. I would have been a mess not hat phone call and cannot even begin to imagine. My heart broke just reading this and definitely sending some hugs your way (even belated), but still.
Kristen Miller Hewitt says
I always get panic in my heart when I see the school phone number on caller id!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Know it is usually in my throat first and then travels right to my stomach, too!
Lisa @ The Golden Spoons says
Those calls always make me panic! I always assume the kids are sick. Glad yours was a positive one – this time! 🙂
Janine says
Thanks Lisa and I know so thankful this one was a positive one at the very least.
Rosey says
I hate when the school shows up on my Caller ID. I always get that little tummy jump too!
Janine says
Rosey, totally in my tummy for sure!
Bill says
I’ll tell you what’s worse…teaching where your son goes to school. I was both a teacher and a parent, and I dreaded having my son’s teacher stop me in the hallway to tell me something he just did in class. 🙂 Have a great Wednesday, Janine.
Janine says
Oh god, Bill I think I would have dreaded that, as well! Happy Wednesday to you, too! 😉
Seana Turner says
There is always a bit of panic when you see that the school is calling. When they get older, you fear getting a call on the cell phone from the child. I always asked my children to begin their call with, “I’m ok….” So nice to get a GOOD call every now and then, right Janine?
Janine says
Perfect advice, Seana and yes thank god though for good phone calls once in a while! 🙂
James Oliver, Jr. (@jamesoliverjr) says
Yep, know that feeling. Except when day care calls, it’s usually bad news.
Janine says
Yup, that was pre-school days for us, too!
Kristen says
As soon I see the school phone # on the caller id I totally panic! so get this…
Janine says
Exactly, Kristen and I know just total panic and dread.
Alison Tedford says
I’m so glad last year’s teacher always led with “he’s fine!”
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
That line does make a world of difference!
Michelle Grundy says
Mine too, I was just going to post that, first words out of the head’s mouth ‘there’s nothing wrong’ lol. This however is after numerous times with several children when there was something very wrong!
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Michelle, I think it is also definitely a way to lessen the blow at times, too unfortunately.
Eileen Carmody Shaklee says
The phone call of shame! How I dread it.
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
I know totally and seriously dread it!
Diane Roark says
Janine,
I truly know the dreaded school phone calls. Having a special needs son I had to always be glued to my phone. I was always fearful to answer the school thinking Caleb’s was having a shunt failure. One day I was not near it and the school called an ambulance. They thought he was having a shunt failure. If only I could have answered the phone and made it to check him out. I have also had several terrible behavior problems phone calls about my adoptive son. The school was calling to inform me. Between the two of these things, I hated school phone calls but know how important they are. I wish I could have peace before answering the phone. Maybe, because I do not have time to pray before answering it.
Many blessings this week,
Diane
Janine says
Aw, Diane and I am so sorry to hear this about Caleb and the phone calls from him alone you have had in the past. I know mine pale in comparison to this and can only imagine what you must have felt like in these times. Hugs and thank you for sharing here with me.
Elaine A. says
OH yeah, I’m always like, “uh oh”. 😉
Janine says
Exactly and perfectly said, Elaine!!! 😉
Kelly says
Whenever the phone rings and my kids are away, my heart jumps a little! I always freak if I leave my phone behind, what if they need me?? Then I talk myself down, kids are fine, calm down!
Janine says
Kelly, I know I am never without my phone andante still that one time I am without something like this would totally happen!
Kelly Caflisch-Arnoldussen says
Everyone’s dead! The world has ended! Just a tad bit dramatic. 😉
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
LOL, I know, but still!! 😉
Jen says
I received an early morning phone call from one of my children’s teachers last week and I almost had a heart attack! It was good, but boy oh boy, does it set you on edge!
Janine says
I know totally does set you on edge and you are just so right, Jen!!
Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom says
This totally reminded me of when I was in ECE.
I used to call parents 3-5 days within their child’s start date with our program, just to touch bases and check in with the new family. This would FREAK so many parents out! Some would even answer the phone saying, “Oh no, what is it?” lol
I did this because I felt it was important that families know they could expect good communications from us – not just negative stuff. However, sometimes I questioned it because it really did give parents that “sick” feeling.
Thanks for sharing. I’m delighted to hear your Lily is adjusting okay. They’re always our babies though, aren’t they?!
xoxo
Janine says
Jennifer, sad thing is I just went through this last year as my oldest had the same teacher and she did the same for her. And still I panicked. Go figure and just the reaction of seeing that number on my caller id. But yes they are most definitely still our babies! xoxo
Nicole DeSimone Johnson says
It’s the worst feeling. My oldest hit his head last year and also had a major gash which required stitches.
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Oh man, I am so sorry that that happened to your oldest and can only imagine how you felt during that phone call. Hugs!
Nicole DeSimone Johnson says
Thanks. I’m glad that your phone call came with positive news.
Confessions of A Mommyaholic says
Aw, thank you too!
Aunt Gloria says
How nice that the teacher called with positive information! I’m impressed. And of course I wouldn’t expect anything other than a glowing report on Lily. So glad she is doing so well. And glad you can enjoy the afterglow of such a good report on her. Love……..xxoo
Janine says
Aw, thanks so much Aunt Gloria xoxo 😉
Allie says
I can so relate to this one! I have already had several calls from the boys’ school – most all of which were either informational or positive – but one was Miles in the nurse’s office with 104 temperature!!! Luckily I live 2 minutes away and I was there in a flash but yes, my heart jumps each time I see that number pop up!
Janine says
Aw, Allie I know we had one last year with Emma having puked on the bus ride to school. We also live a few minutes away from the school and was there in a flash, too. But no matter what I hate seeing that number come up as my heart jumps an extra beat still!
Kenya G. Johnson says
Of course I panic until I hear the voice on the other in of the phone and know what’s what. I kid you not, the last phone call I received from the nurses office was last year. I answered the phone and it was Christopher’s voice near tears saying he stepped in dog poop and even though he wiped his shoes on the grass everyone could still smell it. And of course I went to the school to trade poop ones for clean ones. 😉
Janine says
Last year Kenya, Emma stepped in a puddle as the snow was melting during recess. Poor thing got her shoe and sock all wet. Thankfully I had packed her with a change of boots and the nurse had a clean pair of socks for her to borrow, but still I felt terrible for her. So totally get it!
Jack says
When I get calls like that it is usually the school asking for money. But I have gotten the occasional “your child is sick can you pick them up” call.
But I am with you, I never want to see those calls come in.
Janine says
Jack, I know I never want those calls either if I can help it!
Tamara says
I remember last year with kindergarten, the school nurse called the second week of school! It was only to ask me to get paperwork from her doctor but my heart skipped 1,000 beats!
And then… get this.. she called later that same day because Scarlet WAS sick. The second week of school!
Sigh.
Janine says
I know it is seriously just coming. We are about 4 weeks in and I know our luck is bound to run out still. God help me when it does and so not ready for either of my girls to be sick again this school year now!
lisacng @ expandng.com says
I dread phone calls from school as well. Glad your phone call was positive and SO nice of the teacher to call. My teacher hasn’t done that!
Janine says
Aw, our teacher is amazing and Emma had the same one last year. But still the number coming up gives me panic nonetheless – good or bad.
Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama says
every time I get a phone call from the school, my heart skips ALL the beats! But 99% of the time its a robo call. lol. A few times its been a sick kid. but usually the school knows to calm my nerves within 5 seconds of me picking up the phone!
Janine says
Nellie, I know many robo calls here, as well, but on those few chances it hasn’t been our school does their best to calm down, as well. But still just can’t help myself as this is a knew jerk reaction.
Alison says
I’m always thankful when his teacher leads with “he’s fine!” *whew*
Janine says
Me too, Alison!! 🙂
Rabia @TheLiebers says
I dread seeing the school numbers on my Caller ID. 85% of the time it’s not good news. 🙁
Janine says
I totally feel you on this, Rabia!!
Kristi Campbell says
It’s so true isn’t it? My stomach absolutely drops every time I see the school’s number on my phone! Most of the time, it’s meant that I need to go pick Tucker up because he’s sick. Sigh.
Janine says
I know those are the worst calls and I hate having to hear that they are sick. Seriously, know enough of these calls are in my future, but still dread them so!
Leslie says
Calls from the school are the worst. And now they can even get me on email. >:|
Janine says
I can email the teachers, but never really had to and they haven’t emailed me, but when that day comes I will be freaking a bit, too!
Gingi says
My little ones are too small for school, but I totally go to worst case scenario whenever I get paged by the day care at the gym, lol! – http://www.domesticgeekgirl.com
Janine says
I know and so true, Gingi never fails as my mind wonders to the worst case scenario!
ellesees.net says
here’s to a successful year full of only happy phone calls! *crosses fingers*
Janine says
Aw, thank you so much!! 😉
April G says
These days, I often receive bad news and haven’t gotten a positive call in a long time. I would love to get a good phone call one of these days. For the most part, we don’t receive many at all, so that’s good.
Janine says
Aw, April I hope for a good phone call for you now very soon. Hugs xoxo